My husband wants to come to a session.

[Deleted member 37474]

Talked to my therapist today. She is open to my husband coming to learn more about ptsd and how it affects marriages. She seemed very comfortable with this. Not surprised considering she is a licensed marriage counselor as well.

 

[EveHarrington]

What are your current thoughts on him joining you in a session?

 

[Deleted member 37474]

What are your current thoughts on him joining you in a session?

I think that I am okay with it if he wants to do it. I kind of want to meet in a different room though.

I did send him a YouTube video that explains trauma/ptsd which he started to watch, but then we were interupted by a child. Children truly do complicate time to conversate with your spouse.

 

[A concerned spouse]

I went to one of my husbands sessions and I know he was terrified. But first you need to realize that you have a signed confidential agreement with your therapist and they will NOT indulge any information you have shared with them unless they get your convent first. It helped me a lot because I could put a face with the name and I really really liked her and knew my sufferer was in good hands. I also think it helped his T to know me too. It gave her an outlook into my personality which helped her. So don't fret and you have a really great guy to be willing to attend with you. To me that shows true love and commitment. Best of luck to you!

 

[Rhoeth]

Before I fled from my abusive husband he demanded that he go with me to my therapy session and to my GP appointments because he didn't want me talking about him or our marriage. He said that for all he knew I was making things up and it was no one else's business.
That was one of the final signs that made something in me feel scared enough to flee.

 

[deeplyloved]

TexCat, did you make a decision about this? Curious about your thought process and experience.

 

[Sandstone]

My husband came to a session this week. He was going to be in the city, so I asked if he'd like to come, partly as a result of this thread. He was pleased to meet someone who we expect to be a major part of my life, and to feel included, as I rarely say anything about the sessions.

I'd discussed it with T the week before, and she was open to doing whatever we needed, but neither of us had anything we particularly wanted to get from it, so we left it fairly open. She led us into talking about how we feel about living with my illness, as it wasn't what we expected. I still think it is unfair and an unreasonable burden on him, but he said very warmly that he still loves me, and loves me more than when we married. That was good to hear, so I think it was a success.