Well even if they are well-intentioned- at least son #1, another thing you can do then is be more honest with #1 but hold your words with #2. Son #1 may feel son #2 has the answers or support for him and #1 is too worried. (Just a possibility.)
But as you said, it may not be a bad thing. However:
Wow. All I can think of is some people need their as* kicked.
I don't think there is anything wrong with your discernment. Not a crime in trying to think well/ better of them. But by the sound of it they aren't acting in a way that earns the right.
But as you said, it may not be a bad thing. However:
Yes, who wouldn't be. Triggered to the max. You can also say, "i will think about it and get back to you". If they are speaking to you as they are (and their mother) they need to up the respect ante- you can also say I'll return to this conversation when you speak respectfully to me.Brings back memories of how it felt to be forced into this position in the first place. Discernment was never my forte apparently. This having to ride it out to see which side of the fence I should be watching from has me destablized some and trying to figure out how to ground out.
Wow. All I can think of is some people need their as* kicked.
I don't think there is anything wrong with your discernment. Not a crime in trying to think well/ better of them. But by the sound of it they aren't acting in a way that earns the right.