NoGoodDeed
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I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for three years now. Little background information: we were both married when we met. I am no longer married. He is working on separating from his wife. He was a police officer when we met and has since retired due to an injury. He is involved in a lawsuit that adds a lot of stress to his life.
The thing that started his PTSD was me smoking pot with a male friend. He knew I smoked so this wasn’t what upset him. He said he felt cheated on because I smoked with the guy. Mind you, I was still living with my husband at the time and none of that bothered him. I had no idea that this would bother my boyfriend so I reassured him I would never smoke with any other guy again. But his triggers and issues progressed. He doesn’t even want me being friends with the guy anymore. My kid is best friends with my friends kid. They go to the same school and adore each other. I haven’t hung out with my friend at all even though his kid stays at my house for sleepovers and vice versa. My boyfriend has had all sorts of treatments for PTSD and he just keeps getting more and more triggers. I can’t have any male friends at all. Not friends from my childhood nor friends that are just internet friends whom I talk to but will never meet. He flipped out because an internet friend didn’t know his name. I hadn’t really made it a habit of telling people I, a married woman, had a married boyfriend. I am at a loss as what I should do. He has more triggers now and I feel like I’m walking on broken glass. Does anyone have any suggestions or ideas on how to heal? I haven’t stated how deeply in love with him I am. I do not want to “move on”. I want him and only him.
The thing that started his PTSD was me smoking pot with a male friend. He knew I smoked so this wasn’t what upset him. He said he felt cheated on because I smoked with the guy. Mind you, I was still living with my husband at the time and none of that bothered him. I had no idea that this would bother my boyfriend so I reassured him I would never smoke with any other guy again. But his triggers and issues progressed. He doesn’t even want me being friends with the guy anymore. My kid is best friends with my friends kid. They go to the same school and adore each other. I haven’t hung out with my friend at all even though his kid stays at my house for sleepovers and vice versa. My boyfriend has had all sorts of treatments for PTSD and he just keeps getting more and more triggers. I can’t have any male friends at all. Not friends from my childhood nor friends that are just internet friends whom I talk to but will never meet. He flipped out because an internet friend didn’t know his name. I hadn’t really made it a habit of telling people I, a married woman, had a married boyfriend. I am at a loss as what I should do. He has more triggers now and I feel like I’m walking on broken glass. Does anyone have any suggestions or ideas on how to heal? I haven’t stated how deeply in love with him I am. I do not want to “move on”. I want him and only him.