Nervous about failing on the job

[Justmehere]

I'm nervous about a job next week. It's short term. I'm in a new role. I think I can do it. But I'm nervous to the point of being sick to my stomach. (I have to be vague about the job itself for privacy sake.)

Any suggestions on how to talk to myself about being able to handle this? I've been nervous all through training. They said I did great. But I just got promoted and I'm terrified and I don't know why... except everything. The promotion is actually much better in terms of being less triggery - my boss doesn't know that, it just worked out that way. But I have more responsibility.

I dunno. This is vague but I'm kinda sinking and trying to find the cognitive affirmations and tools I need to pull myself out of the hole I'm sliding into pretty fast.

 

[hodge]

I can only convey what has been working for me. I focus on the purpose of my work and the good it will do. I get stuck and almost insurmountably unable to go back to it, but I pray the night before that I will be able to work and then I can, even if for one hour. And I find that when I push myself to just start, I can do a decent amount. I take breaks and go back to it, and sometimes manage to get a few hours in on a given day. I would advise, don't set yourself up to imagine working an 8-hour day. Just focus on some little thing you can do and don't worry about how long you'll be able to do it, and often it will likely progress into a little more you can do. Take breaks when you need to.

 

[Deleted member 37474]

Have you read about "imposter's syndrome?"

 

[hodge]

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I would feel this sometimes. But it's a lie. You don't get to where you are if you are not truly talented. And you, my dear JMH, are truly talented.

 

[BoN-bOn]

I drown myself in my work. I’m a nurse. Taking care of others comes easy to me & I feel more confident when I’m at work than I do in any other part of my life. I could spend every night at work & be just fine. It’s coming home & taking care of myself that is the problem.

 

[Friday]

Sometimes I can take the anxiety & flip it into excitement.

Granted, I still have to do massive self-care / blow off stress / ground to deal with excitement so I don't crash & get all suicidal, but at least excitement is fun, and I'd have to do all of that with anxiety, as well.

 

[hodge]

I drown myself in my work. I’m a nurse. Taking care of others comes easy to me & I feel more confiden...

You go, @BoN-bOn. I pray you can sustain that.