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Panic at ikea

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Today I was at Ikea with my best friend for her bday. We'd just arrived, I wasn't stressed or feeling pressured. All of the sudden I feel the hot flashes and tingling in my limbs. Another freakin panic attack coming on. I hate them. For many reasons . However, I go into a pass out and simultaneously explosive poo my pants mode that is humiliating. I was able to pop a pill and get myself back together before poo hit the fan. Pun intended. I don't always want to have to use meds though. Does anyone with panic attacks like these know how to stop them naturally????
 
IKEA can make normies freak out! So don’t be so hard on yourself. I have a friend who loves ikea but hates crowds. When they were having that big clearance sale, I texted him about how the ikea clearance commercial reminded me of him, and to stay far away until the sale was over. He thanked me as he was actually planning on going to Ikea the next day, lol.

Are there any other warning signs you have in advance of an episode? I have two things which mean “instant time out”. One is that I shake uncontrollably. Another is so incredibly unique to me that I won’t mention it here. If either of these things happens to me, I know I need to remove myself from the situation, and work on grounding and self soothing.
 
If the pill situation is working for you right now? I’m thinking to keep doing that, but try to take it later rather than earlier and earlier if you can?

The big one for panoc attacks is breathing. You may not notice, but if you’re panicking to passing out point, and the heart is going faster and faster, your breathing is also becoming shallower and shallower. As that fight/flight mode sets in, your body is building itself to be able to fight or run. It’s pumping extra blood to your limbs to help you flight, and it’s switching off unessential systems (like peeing and pooping) because they aren’t necessary in that fight/flight moment. Eventually you pass out because your breathing has become too shallow for too long.

Practicing breathing regularly (like, take out 5 minutes a day), while you’re not panicked? Can be a game changer. You can learn (and sadly, it doesn’t come naturally, ao practice is essential for all of us!) to force yourself to breahe more deeply. So when you notice yourself getting panicked, you can sit down, and force those long, deep inhales and exhales.

Why do people bat on about breathing? Because when you force your breathing to regulate like that? All of those physiological changes that are ramping you up into fight/flight are forced to slow down, starting with your heart rate. Your body is then essentially forced to return oxygen (and control) back to those systems like our tummy, gut and bladder that it was shutting down.

My issue used to be peeing myself when I got panicked. The same issue as you’re having, just my bladder instead of my gut. But by forcing my breath to regulate, I can now confidently get myself back from the brink when I know I’m getting panicked.

Once you have more control back? It’s a case of getting yourself away from the situation that’s made you panic until your distress levels have come right down.

Originally I would carry valium, and pop one of them when I started to panic so that I wouldn’t wet myself (because once you start thinking “Oh gawd, I’m gonna wet myself”, the panic just intensifies, yeah!?). So gradually I got used to sitting down and breathing through it, and holding off on the valium until it was clear I couldn’t get it under control.

Regular breathing exercises (I do my each night now before I go to sleep) has now got me to the point where I don’t bother carrying valium with me at all. Because I know that I can breathe my way out it - I’ve done it plenty of times now.

Loads of self-confidence comes from knowing you can control it with your breathing, because all things being relative, there’s nothing too embarrassing about telling someone “I just need to sit for a moment”, and they can’t even tell that you’re doing your breathing exercises. You just look like someone who’s needed to sit down for a moment.

I would caveat that advice by also saying - I don’t go to places like Ikea. I probably can breathe my way out of that place, but it’s like a great big yellow and blue panic centre, where every other person is wandering around in silent panic wondering where the friggin exit is already!!

Worrying that you’re going to poop yourself in public? Is a pretty massive cross to bear - but it won’t always be like that:)
 
Errrr....yep.....I've been through the humiliation of fainting through panic, and messing in public. I now stick on an adult incontinence nappy when I'm out in crowded places, and it actually helps lower the added fear, so I can just concentrate on calming myself down. I'm slowly building confidence.
 
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