Guys all think this way. When the marriage is over they never equate it to these services either. Friday made and excellent post of services. I was going to say nanny and maid service. I know it sounds expensive, but maybe start out part time
I have an issue spending money on things I need let alone unnecessarly. "Maid services" can be a friend, family, neighbor looking for a few extra bucks. One of my neighbors (whom is now not a neighbor) used to wash and clean one of our cars inside and out or our house for 20 bucks. More if we wanted her to do more. A huge help for us as none of us have a physical abilty to clean the house or cars. But she did it way cheaper then a maid service would.
Same goes for a "nanny". Start with a babysitter, friend, family member, etc, that can help with the kids. Many will do it for free or way little money.
Also, teaching children independant play is very important for being a PTSD parent. Learning from vloggers I watch whom has PTSD and a mom of two, a year old and a 2 year old. She knows she can leave them in the lovingroom or put them in their rooms and not only is it safe as it's all baby proof but they can play alone. So she can have her down time or even a melt down and the children remain safe and fully unaware.
I just feel the burden in that - and because my illness is not visible, than it can't be that bad. I am sure I am projecting some of that on to him as well.
You could be. I have the thought patterns that it can't be that bad as well, but if you stand back and look at it, it can be that bad.
You can't understand what you don't know. You can empathise, you can imagine, but unless you have experienced it, you can't understand it.
I agree with this 100%! I can explain it until I am blue in the face and non-PTSD people in my life just cannot fully "get it" as they have never felt it. And some things I just cannot explain no matter how hard I try. But, I think, the closest to understanding PTSD is to research it, read about it, watch videos about it and to understand what issues can be caused by PTSD and what issues are present for you and in your relationship.
You can't force him into therapy but you can make it known how important it is to you and to your relationship. Is he open to at least research it right now? Maybe he will be open to therapy after a while of researching PTSD?
But, on another note, you can't force him to understand. Maybe speak to your therapist about boundries to keep you and your emotions safe and ways to change yourself within the relationship that would help? I appologize if I missed it but have you spoken to your therapist about this and how to proceed inside the relationship assuming he remains ignorant of PTSD?
