Relationship Should i reach out to my ex supporter?

[Supervixn]

Long story short, I moved across states to be with a boyfriend I met online. We ended up fighting a lot and our issues got in the way. He moved out after a few months and wanted to stay in a relationship to see if things improved. It got to the point where I saw him only a few times a month if that. I found a new apt and moved out... Told him I wasn't happy with our relationship. He and his dad moved into our apt and as far as I know are still living there. I tried to reach out to him during the moving process but he never replied and ihavent heard a peep in about two months. When I moved out I left him a gift and a heartfelt apology letter that mentioned if he ever needs a friend or wants to hang out or try again to call me.

Should I reach out? I still love him and I do worry if he's okay. It feels like he is angry but I don't know for sure. Just feels that way. Thoughts...? Thank you

 

[Neverthesame]

I don't see the harm in trying one last time, to tell him you are thinking of him and meant what you said about keeping in touch.
I'd leave it alone after that though.

 

[Sweetpea76]

You can reach out, just be prepared for whatever reaction he may have.

 

[Supervixn]

I'm wondering if I should wait longer idk..

 

[WTF Happened]

Were you really unhappy in the relationship? Or were you symptomatic at the time and couldn't deal with the stress of a relationship?

 

[Supervixn]

I wasn't happy with how things were and felt abandoned. He is horrible at communicating and is stubborn. But I love him and appreciate what he has done for me.

 

[Neverthesame]

You know him better than any of us do, a couple of months sounds reasonable to me. But that's me.

When you were still together, how long would he generally stay pissed off about something?
That might give you a better insight towards how long you should wait before attempting to reach out to him.

 

[Supervixn]

Not sure. He tried his best to be very logical and unemotional. My emotional
...ness.. bothered and stressed him

 

[WTF Happened]

Is it possible that this isn't a very good match? You were feeling abandoned and you find him to be incommunicative and stubborn. Your "emotionalness" bothered and stressed him. It's possible to still love and appreciate him without being in a relationship with him. That would leave you open to find someone who suits your needs better.

I know it can be easy to overlook the flaws when you love someone, especially if you happen to be feeling lonely right now, but compromising on your needs and settling for a relationship that doesn't make you feel cared for can lead to much more long-term pain than any short-term loneliness.

 

[EveHarrington]

I’d just move on at this point.

 

[Justmehere]

What do you hope to gain by reconnecting?

 

[Supervixn]

I do love him and wish we could try again. But I left because he didnt try so idk. It's hard. I feel like we both love(d) each other. I just can't believe he would cut me off completely like that. I feel like things can always improve and that love is strong and inspiring. I feel like people grow and change and are challenged and that's just life. Idk I appreciate him as a person and I wonder if everything is okay. I would love to start over while working on ourselves separately... I know I know. Just love him is all.