Ex is here to pick stuff up, done in due ADHD style as usual.
Yah, I dunno...? I do know that his ADHD makes seemingly simple tasks a nightmare often enough... But I'm also hypersensitive to my boundaries being trampled on atm and overreact when it happens...It does make me wonder how much of this "ADHD" shit is just him making excuses to violate your boundaries, and has found an excuse that you seemingly believe/accept. Because for me, "ADHD-style" would be arriving at your house, throwing as much shit as humanly possible into wherever I am throwing it, and not bothering to even organize/stack/whatever it at all (turning it into Object Jenga, most likely) and it would take like 20 minutes max. For me, "ADHD-style" is extremely fast and haphazard, not 10-hours. I couldn't imagine doing 10 hours of anything in a row, let alone something as mind-numbingly boring as moving. Sounds like he just wants an excuse to f*ck with you.
Superfun! But that’s me and my own personal preferences. Other disorders, no matter how much I might like the person themselves, I cannot tolerate whatsoever, or have very limited windows of tolerance.It's hard to describe what living with an adult with that level of ADHD is like.
Good on!On a positive note: I'm starting to settle into living here alone and am starting to settle into a routine. I'm managing to do all the tasks my ex used to do. My depression is starting to lift a bit, so I think it was definitely the right decision. Also, my finances have stabilised a bit. It turns out that the Disability Allowance that supplements my income from work had been calculated wrong and I was getting $500 less per month than I was entitled to... So now I'm sleeping more soundly at night and things seem a bit more manageable.
Anyway, we've managed to agree to him only coming once a fortnight to pick up remaining stuff, so that seems a lot more doable for me.