Sympathy Makes Me Angry

[bethinhfx]

" thankful for anything near constructive or kind..." smile. NO kidding!

 

[Abrasky]

I couldn't feel the feeling of sympathy until today, so this thread very interesting to me.

I think I tended to avoid situations with sympathy until know.

The feeling scared me and it would block out with flashbacks and dissacotiation. I would give anything to have felt sympathy freely in the last 13 years. I find when I feel sympathy for others in regards to work abuse, I can start to feel sympathy to myself in regards to work abuse(yelling failing continually ect). I was never allowed to feel sympathy without emotional pain attached to it while growing up. When you miss it, it sure hits you like a truck emotionally when you get it back.

 

[mamachick]

Wow, I never thought of it that way but sure can see how that would happen. When I feel sympathy, I think I have the hardest time expressing how I feel. I have just assumed that like me, others dont want my sympathy, although some do.

I think generally people do the best they know how to provide comfort to others-often not knowing what others need.

 

[heidi]

Or you just don't want pity.