Therapist Terminated With Me

[Suzetig]

I thought he wasn't working with patients anyway.

You're not going to like me saying this but if there's an ongoing criminal investigation into his client work you could be in a lot of trouble contracting him and either saying anything about the investigation or implying you'll contribute or withhold evidence based on his communication with you.

Any correspondence you send him will form part of the investigation regardless of what you do or don't say and you could be charged with offences around hindering or interfering with police investigation. Simply put, you contacting him knowing about this investigation could end up in you having a criminal record. I'm pretty sure he's not worth that.

 

[qwyoey]

You want permission from the police?

 

[Silver.]

And I want him to reply. so that is my next goal. If they won;'t allow that, then I will have to tell the police more.

this...this is a whole lot of mind games, it's just wrong. you are acting as puppeteer. "if he allows me to contact him, then I won't go and tell the police all I know" what sort of game are you trying to play?
How can you not see how UTTERLY wrong this is

implying you'll contribute or withhold evidence based on his communication with you.

it's a total mindgame you are trying to play

He crossed so many boundaries, he was completely in the wrong. When you two talked about terminating next year, you panicked, you pushed back at him, you harassed him. Pretty much, you scared him off to the point where he didn't want to have to deal with another x amount of months of you not wanting to terminate therapy by taking it out on him, and so he cut off all communication, not wanting to deal with your backlash.

And now, you still want to play games because it didn't end on your terms and risk screwing up a police investigation into him crossing boundaries with other patients? These people are probably in a really rough spot like you, but might not get the proper help they need because you want to play games with the investigation to manipulate the scenario to get the closure you want.

I don't know what kind of help can be given to you, but I do hope that some sort of help comes, because all of this is just so, so wrong

 

[Powder]

I don't remember reading about inappropriate boundary issues with the therapist. That seems to be coming up more in your and others' posts now. Is there a reason for that, or did I miss something?

Is that being exaggerated for revenge? Or is it something that wasn't being dealt with before?

 

[qwyoey]

I know this is coming off as a criticism, but I think you really do need to continue on with a qualified therapist.

Also I don't know who this fatherly mentor you mention is, but this sounds like another situation filled with a potential for abuse. Normal healthy adults do not agree to assume responsibility for others experiences great mental stress

 

[qwyoey]

I don't remember reading about inappropriate boundary issues with the therapist. That seems to be coming up...

It was mentioned previously in other postings and that this therapist agreed to physical holding

 

[Deleted member 33880]

My god, I have held off until now but you lot are really vicious. Vicious is the correct term. You are not supportive - you wade in with judgements and criticism at any opportunity you get and I am the wronged victim here. You even wade in when you have misread what I have written or when you just feel like having another go at me. Stop it. It is cruel, it is cyber bullying. Behave.

 

[Deleted member 33880]

for starters, the police investigation hasn't started and they agreed yesterday to give me time to try and resolve it with the Trust first - so why Suzetig you need to jump down my throat about that, I have no idea, except that is what you have been doing the entire thread. Back off! Try being compassionate and sensitive instead of judgemental and aggressive.
this man held me pressed against his body when he had an erection. I don't think that is okay. The police don't think that was okay. yes, I was protecting him. yes, I didn't want to admit that.
And no, he didn't ask me if he could, I didn't say he could.
How dare some of you imply I am exaggerating claims. for heaven's sake, stop being trolls. for some reason quite a lot of you seem to have made a decision that on this forum and on this thread you can gun me down when you want. Stop it. It is not advise. I have people personal messaging commiserating with me for how unnecessarily unkind and vicious you are being. Think about your behaviour and its impact on me. I am in a terrible state from a stupidly cruel abrupt termination and all you can do is reign down criticism on me?! WTF??
THINK before you post. Try being kind and understanding. Don't leap to conclusions.
I had finished most of my trauma work. I was ending therapy next summer anyway. Who ever waded in to give of their great opinion from their great vantage point of knowing me really well to say that I need more therapy, don't be so rude and what kind of qualifications do you have to come in and criticise me like that. this thread has got really out of order. I feel horrified by what you are doing to me.

 

[qwyoey]

I don't see any bullying here. I see honesty. Honesty that you might not want to accept.

People have taken a lot of time to reply to you very constructively. Your behavior is not healthy.

 

[Deleted member 33880]

judgements again. See what you are doing!!

 

[anthony]

@Kaluki, if you do not want others opinions, which is all that is given thus far, then stop posting. Respect opinion diversity. Take what helps you, ignore the rest.

 

[Suzetig]

I know you think "compassion and sensitivity" means something different to what you've got here and particularly what you've got from me. That's ok, believe it or not I only keep coming back here because I think you've been treated badly by this T, and keep on inviting him to treat you badly. Which is your choice I suppose.

I have no interest in giving you a hard time, but nor do I have any interest in colluding with you.

What you describe (him holding you again his body while he had an erection) is sexual assault, which the police know about (because you said they didn't think it was ok) but have "given you time to resolve with him"?