What To Never Say To A Ptsd Sufferer

[notsurewheretoturn]

Oh and I forgot the classic "Well if you can't remember all the details you must have been dreaming" - really?

 

[Weemie]

"i have that too! my husband cheated on me."

 

[Gadgie]

I walked out on my very first therapy session, because she kept saying "yes I know" when in fact she had no idea what a person with PTSD goes through. She was just so patronising towards me, I just couldn't take any more.

I found out later, that she wasn't even a qualified therapist?

Big mistake for me though, as I had to wait on the list for two years before I saw a therapist again?

 

[Truthful_Whispers]

"Get over It."

 

[sun seeker]

Regarding a recovered memory I confided in the wrong person about: "Could it have been something that happened in a past life?"

 

[sun seeker]

"Have some chocolate."

Not that I don't appreciate chocolate, mind you. It's the spirit of the thing.

 

[Tinyflame]

Not to me personally but, "Idk what their problem is, maybe someone smiled at them the wrong way 50 years ago.", & "everyone should sing". (No one sings who doesn't have a voice. I can't even sing Happy Birthday, & I want the person to feel loved. :( :speechless: )

Really to me it's not the comments, it's 'me'. I think, "give them the benefit of the doubt", "it's my fault identifying it differently", "don't over analyze", "surely they mean it casually- ie 'you know what I mean' (-> Yes, I do, but..) ". Etc.

But at the end of the day though I feel bad to view it badly (or them), I think "Can people really be that judgmental & most of all clueless?" I know all I feel like is worse. :(

Much of what I hear said about ptsd leaves me feeling like sh*t. My problem, no one can make you feel anything, but I'm far too tired to try to re-educate anyone else. Sometimes I wonder if it ever occurs to them the impact of the words they choose? But then I ask myself I wonder if I too do the same to others inadvertently, & that's why I recognize what they do? :(

PS, @sun seeker, how about I bring over some wine, cheese & chocolate in this life? :) :hug:

 

[sun seeker]

PS, Link Removed, how about I bring over some wine, cheese & chocolate in this life? :) :hug:

Sounds awesome. We'll be waiting for you on the front porch.

 

[Tinyflame]

@sun seeker Light a candle for me? :tup: I've got a bad sense of direction, but good taste in cuisine (& friends :) :inlove: ). :laugh: :hug:

 

[sun seeker]

but good taste in cuisine

I hope you like plums. They seem to be the happening thing around here at the moment!

 

[Tinyflame]

It just so happens @sun seeker I LOVE plums. :):hungry::p
:hug:

 

[Friday]

Related - What branch of military where you? I had a regular doctor ask - I replied child of veteran - a child prisoner of war.

<rueful laugh> Related in reverse... I'm a chick, so *clearly* my trauma is rape. :banghead:

Nope*. Combat PTSD.

OH! I knew a lot of nurses/ medics/ etc. It so hard to see our brave boys blah blah blah. You're such an angel, blah blah blah.

No. Not a medic. (For the record I <3 Medics!!!)

Oh, so MST? (Military sexual trauma)

No. Combat.

(Some version of) YOU'RE A LIAR!!!!

And my eyes just rolled so far back into my head I just seized.

((* Yes, I've been raped. It's not what gave me PTSD. I don't like to confuse the issue.))