Wife agreed to mariage counseling

[EveHarrington]

Sorry I have to laugh I've been writing stuff just like this on here for years. You aren't alone and you're not crazy.

The back and forth with your wife is a complex matter but suffice it to say in my experience you struggle for dominance. This is not a good or bad thing it just is. The marital relationship stands alone in my opinion. There is no other "arena" like it. She's a wife you're a husband. The rest is a matter of degrees.

It's good she's willing. You are still communicating and doing something (anything) together, going to counseling counts.

There's hope.

Have you read the backstory?

I kind of disagree on the hope thing.

 

[Mach123]

Have you read the backstory?

I kind of disagree on the hope thing.

Where there's life there's hope.

And yes I'd read it I just double checked because of your comment. I don't see anything so catastrophic or insurmountable. Remember, they're married. (You know, all that sillyness about an oath and till death and so on?)

 

[somerandomguy]

Oh my god, @Mach123. You'd have couples stay together where one of them is beating the other one just because they're married?

How sick is that?? Have you forgotten where you are??

@abbynormal1929 - do NOT listen to this member. He does NOT speak for ANY of the rest of us.

 

[joeylittle]

If this thread gets any further derailed with other members in-fighting, I'll shut it down. That's not very fair to the OP - but this kind of posting needs to stop.

Disagreeing with each other is fine. The OP can sort through what they find useful or not. Remember, this is the internet - anyone can be anyone. If a thread is too triggering for you, leave it for others to respond to.

@abbynormal1929, I will say this - if you are concerned about your wife reading your facebook messages, you should think about what you post here. This site is largely open and searchable on the internet. You have access to a members diary and a private diary, for increased privacy, if you want it.

 

[abbynormal1929]

I'll consider the privacy, but I don't think there's much danger of her reading anything I've written here. I appreciate everybodies input. All I know at the moment is that I just had to pick my stepdaughter up from school 2 hours after is started cause she was out of control kicking walls, and people and biting herself, (she has autism) and I'm more scared of my wife's reaction to the situation, than my stepdaughters behavior. I would probably be more worried about the behavior if I was a custodial parrent, but I have no authority to make decisions on her care or education. I cant even make dr's appointments for her without my wife's written permission. But My wife just gets so angry, saying everyone is blaming her for her daughters behaviors, and then continues to yell at me saying I don't care, or I'm just going to leave her anyay. Even if I try to offer my input, it's entirely disregarded. Last night she went on and on, saying everything I say is a lie, based on the situation with my mother. She's suspicious of my online search histories, assuming they're all about her. I caught her looking at one of my fb conversations on my phone, which sometimes she gets fb messages on my phone cause she cant on hers, but when she saw it was for me she didn't close it. She started reading a private conversation that wasn't about her, and I stopped her, and now she's acting paranoid and suspicious about that. She was accusing me of wanting to run away with my chorus director (Who the fb conversation was with), who is not even of the gender of peole I'm attracted to. Things have just been getting more and more hostile, and it's like I have to be emotionally on gaurd, and watch exactly what I say. I do want to leave. But now I even work at the same place as my wife, and she is very well liked there. I'm just worried now that if leaving effected my employment, how that would effect my standing on custody. I could always get another job, but it could take some time. It should also say something that I always delete my web history after visiting this site.

I didn't mean to cause any controversy, and I apologize for that. There is a lot of back-story that is not evident in this post, I just didn't want to keep posting about the same things, so I could see how someone might have a different perspective without previous information. Anyway sorry about that.

Anyway thank you everybody for your continued support and feedback. EveHarrington, and somerandomguy have been particulary supportive throughout many posts, and I wanted to say thank you.