Relationship Does My Wife Have Ptsd? She Has Been Raped Several Times.

[Gs172003]

Frankly I fear for the safety of all of you and the counselor's idea is to "make it easier on her?"

 

[Sweetpea76]

I call bullshit on the counselor too. She's allowed to rage and destroy property, never mind spew bile at children?

Second opinion.

 

[Gs172003]

I have never heard of a counselor oking this behavior. Ever. Hell I've been called out for less!

 

[Fadeaway]

The counsellor suggesting that I'm the one that has to learn to cope more because she can't has left me reeling. I see his point and I'm going to try harder.

Here is the thing. We all see here that you are already doing everything you can to cope and then some. Maybe the therapist doesn't see how hard you are trying? Dude, coming from the view point of a sufferer who has had my own fair share of freakouts and has been destructive. There is a huge difference between being destructive i.e. ripping up a dime store novel, shredding a skirt that already had a whole, or smashing cheap plastic; and destroying an expensive household item in a manner that is highly dangerous. No, the only coping you need to learn how to do is to focus more on taking care of your self.

No, this is not about you learning to cope better. To be honest, I would start looking at medical causes enhancing mental illness. Ha she had any blood tests done recently? I struggle with vitamin deficiencies and there are certain vitamins deficiencies that can cause mental health issues or cause them to be exaggerated.

 

[Deleted member 541]

Personally, I think the counselor is a freaking jerk. Basically he's telling you to put up with this bullshit, which is hurting you and your children mentally.

I know that this is really tough on you, and that you feel trapped because of your job and the fact that you have young children, but seriously, she needs to be put into a facility that will determine what's going on with her. If it were me, the next time she losses it or threatens anything, I would pick up the phone and call the police or the local hospital. She needs help, and getting it will mean that the entire family gets help!

 

[Gs172003]

Here is the thing. We all see here that you are already doing everything you can to cope and then some...

I still think it's a post partum issue considering the age of the baby. Regardless she needs to be seen ASAP.

 

[Sweetpea76]

He's not a psychologist or a psychiatrist. He's a counsellor and his approach is going to be to pick apart events and the emotions that have driven them. In the first session he told us that as my wife was clearly not able to cope the biggest short term benefit to our stability and improve my wife's situation is to focus on my ability to cope. He recognises that this isn't at the heart of all the things that are happening but that's what we will do as a couple.

This is the problem. He sounds like a plain old marriage counselor, not a therapist used to dealing with mental health issues, much less trauma.

She needs psych help. Full stop.