Friday
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This.
General Worries about my sister's future and homelessness
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strongshadow96
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I'm sorry I'm confused by this lol
OliveJewel
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I think @Friday ‘s answer to your question of
Is that you will probably cope poorly but it’s possible that you will cope well (your mind will stay lucid). In other words, you can’t predict the future (common cognitive distortion) but you can consider probabilities.
That’s a lot to take on. I’m very curious how it goes with the lawyer. Sending courage and blessings your way.
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strongshadow96
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Thank you! It never got to the point of needing to contact a lawyer. (Still could though). It took ALOT of conversations between my parents and me.The things they needed to see from her to prove that she was fit to come back home were outright unfair, but she was the bigger person and did them without saying a peep. I'm so proud of her for managing to do that while being limited herself given her mentall illness.
My mom allowed my sister to move back into her apartment, following certain conditions. My sister has an appointment on Friday with her therapist to talk about her sexual assaults, and I'm hoping the therapist will convince her to seek inpatient treatment. This is her professional recommendation, she told my father about a treatment facility nearby.
We aren't completely out of the woods yet as my mom isn't being fully cooperational but my sister isn't homeless and that's what I've been fighting so hard for.
I feel relieved that she is safe, but am absolutely DISGUSTED by my family's actions. The emotional distress I had to go through, just to end up with the plan that I originally proposed is disappointing to say the least.
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strongshadow96
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Everything was working out well. My mom agreed with the plan, my dad agreed with the plan, and my older sister agreed with the plan. All of a sudden my mom started saying that my older sister could no longer stay at her place anymore.
My younger sister talked to both my dad and mom and convinced them that the plan was a bad idea. Now we are back to square one again. I feel so angry, the angriest I've ever felt. I want to verbally attack my family. They are actually harming my sister at this point. They keep saying that she needs to feel uncomfortable to want to get help. What do depressed, mentally ill people do when they feel like they have no more free choices? They take the only free choice they have left and take themselves out of the equation.
Movingforward10
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I'm sorry.
It must be incredibly hard to watch this unfold.
And understandable how you feel.
Your parents sound unable to make decisions of they decide something and then undecided it because another person has offered another view. Which makes planning very difficult and likely to not be successful.
As hard and as horrible as this is, please do believe that you are not responsible for anyone's decisions.
It also doesn't mean your sister is going to end her life over this.(if I am picking up what you're implying correctly).
If you are worried about her immediate safety in terms of her ending her life, can you call emergency services?
It must be incredibly hard to watch this unfold.
And understandable how you feel.
Your parents sound unable to make decisions of they decide something and then undecided it because another person has offered another view. Which makes planning very difficult and likely to not be successful.
As hard and as horrible as this is, please do believe that you are not responsible for anyone's decisions.
It also doesn't mean your sister is going to end her life over this.(if I am picking up what you're implying correctly).
If you are worried about her immediate safety in terms of her ending her life, can you call emergency services?
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strongshadow96
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I do know that I am ultimately not responsible for their decisions. All I can do is try my best to help my sister. I'm fighting for her, I'm doing everything within my power to protect her, and I can feel good about that regardless of what happens. I'm doing my duty to the fullest of my capacity.
I'm worried about her ending her life based on what she's been saying to me. She tells me she's barely holding on. She wants to give up, she's tired of this. I do my best to support her and reassure her, but it is becoming more frequent. I could call the police to do a wellness check, but unless she has a plan to kill herself they won't do anything.
Sideways
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It’s really important that, as a supporter, you proceed on the basis that you can’t save your sister. Neither can your parents.
Certain things can make it easier for her to get the help she needs. But ultimately, the only person who can save your sister is her.
Certain things can make it easier for her to get the help she needs. But ultimately, the only person who can save your sister is her.
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strongshadow96
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Today I drove 8 hours to visit my sister. Tomorrow she has an appointment with her therapist. Her therapist will recommend inpatient therapy and I plan to drive my sister to the facility that her therapist told us about. (My sister doesn't know that we already know the recommended facility). Mainly I want her to check out the facility and get a feel for it and have a chance to ask questions. Then hopefully in the next few days we can get her checked in.
