Worthless

[aedgerle]

I dont know why I continually feel like I am worthless. I know I am worthless and I dont know why I am even on this earth.

 

[Justmehere]

Sometimes trauma survivors internalize the message of abuser(s).

You are not worthless and I’d suggest looking into how to challenge cognitive distortions like “I am worthless.” It’s untrue.

 

[ladee]

It's so hard to believe, when we are feeling and thinking this way, that each of us has purpose... possibly some of your story will help someone else to not feel alone, or they will read something you tried and it worked for you, and they will try it also...

I have spent a lot of my life feeling worthLESS... it's work to find our truth... each of us have been told and treated as if we have no worth. But here, you might find you are not alone in how you feel, and that there are ways to conquer those thoughts and feelings.

You didn't share if you have PTSD or in Therapy... but Therapy , one of the many things we can do to find our worth, is help we all need.

I encourage you to read around the forum to see if you find people you identify with... not all stories are the same, not every solution is for each of us... but you are welcome here.. Glad you found us, and glad you are here... you do have worth, and you do have a voice... you used it today to let us know how you feel... and I, for one, among many here, understand how that feels...

Take your time and look around... there is hope.... there is healing... and we will help all we can, and you will come to understand, you are not alone...

 

[Deleted member 44579]

Hi @aedgerle... Did someone tell you that,?... It's brainwashing. It's something that you probably heard alot...

Your not Worthless... Your worth so much more. It's cognitive distortion... You and ur brain just need to be changed... I know thats going to be difficult.. But who ever stuck that shit in your head is WORTHLESS.....

Please gets some help and some self love and esteem to change this negative mindset. Big hugs....

 

[Still Standing]

Feeling worthless is a tough hurdle to climb over. Are in therapy? Are you addressing this with your therapist? It is important to share your feelings with the T. You are worthwhile and do have a purpose in this world. I know this because my Therapist is currently drumming this into my thick skull and having me examine the times when I have succeeded at something, big or tiny. If you ever stopped to help a little kid or comforted or encouraged a friend or anyone in your work or social world, then you did a worthwhile thing. You are worthwhile. You are not worth less to those you were kind to...you were worth much in that moment, that impacted someone for good. Be sure to repeat this all back to me when I am actively beating myself up and degrading myself, in the future. It is a hard pattern to grow out of. Baby steps...take baby steps in being good to yourself.

 

[Friday]

Try backing it up a step.

What do you define as having worth? What do you value?

 

[aedgerle]

Feeling worthless is a tough hurdle to climb over. Are in therapy? Are you addressing this wit...

I am in therapy with a therapist

Try backing it up a step.

What do you define as having worth? What do you value?

being worth somthing; I value nothing

 

[Friday]

I value nothing

If you don’t value anything ? Then everything, and everyone is worthless.

Can you find even a single example where that might not be true? Something or someone that isn’t worthless.

 

[Still Standing]

Ahhhh...you are speaking the language of all PTSDer's. We speak in absolutes...I will never...I can't...It's useless...I value nothing... We tend to make black and white statements with no consideration for a middle ground between the two...especially when we are caught up in a black hole of self-doubt and rejection, depression etc. It sounds like this is where you are and I am obviously short of all your facts but, the little you have said seems like you are stuck with victimizing yourself. Consider this: you said you value nothing. If that were true, why would you have even made an effort to communicate with us? You apparently value communication with others. That speaks volumes on how you quantify your need for contact. So contact with others, you value. And now that you have posted this thread, you have others who are responding to you. Though we cannot literally be in your presence and share conversation over a cup of tea, we can respond to you, with a caring and a valuing concern for you. I think the key to seeing value in ourselves and the world around us is to DECIDE to look for the small twinkles of little blessings around us. Put the "yes, buts", " I can't", It's useless", "I deserves nothing", "no one understands", "it's hopeless", and similar negative statements aside and chose to change your self-talk to things like, "I can", "I deserve", "there is hope", "I do have worth", etc. You have to decide to work on changing your negatives about yourself, otherwise you stay stuck in your black hole. I say all this because I sometimes find it easier to stay stuck in my hole than to put the energy into seeing my world in a more positive light. This is the struggle most of us have here. There is hope for you and this is a great place to find encouragement, support, and education on your healing process.

 

[PiggyBack]

You need to become your own parent. Think of a mother taking care of her child. How should she treat the child? How to respond appropriately to her hurts, fears, nightmares, etc. How would you like to be treated? Parenthood doesn't come with an instruction manual. You need to learn it. Help yourself become that parent you never had. Be gentle. Teach her. Learn from your mistakes.

It's a concept that I picked up in Al-Anon many years ago. Oddly, becoming my own parent, made me a better parent with my own children.

 

[J Taverner]

Well you gain worth in my eyes just by being someone who feels worthless and would write something like that. You've made me feel less alone, just by posting your thoughts which are analogous to my own. So. Someone who knows how it feels to absolutely know they don't belong here, has much to teach the world about opening up and the constant struggles of (I presume) trauma. I will never know truly the pain from which you suffer, but my sympathies are with you for what they're worth, as someone who can at least relate to your statement.