Sufferer Coping Skills

[Healingnow]

I am looking for coping skills to help me deal with my emotions when they get overwhelming. Hurt, pain, anger, fear, etc. Does anyone have any suggestions that work for getting out of the moment and removing myself from the strong emotion?

 

[Snowflake]

I am looking for coping skills to help me deal with my emotions when they get overwhelming. Hurt, pa...

Great question! I am still trying to learn this myself-with the help of my therapist. So far we discussed deep breathing, coloring, going for a walk, a cold shower, drinking cold cold water, swinging, playing with my dog.

I struggle with most of it, and I end up leaving lots of crazy messages with my therapist. However, Lately I am trying to figure out which part of me is feeling the feeling....sadness, fear, anger etc. Is it my 5 yr old , 8 yr old, teenager, adult, the protector, the controlling bossy bitch....etc. Then I write from that part-it helps. The more I write the more the feeling subsides. I always share my writings with my therapist.

Again I am still working on this-with no support system I struggle.

 

[Abstract]

What are you aware of and have tread Healingnow?

 

[Deleted member 28403]

Welcome to the forums :hug: I hope this place helps you. It's very useful because of the bulk amount of people who feel similar and understand. There is a lot of advice and support to be found here :) I hope that this amazing community helps you as much as it helped me, reading all the similar stories, and learning a lot along the way. Hugs if you accept :hug:

 

[Healingnow]

Great question! I am still trying to learn this myself-with the help of my therapist. So far we discu...

I have a friend who also told me it helps her to write it down. I might have to make more of an effort to do that. Sometimes when I'm triggered I can't stop myself from reacting in an very emotional way. I can do it some of the time but not all of the time. I have to do self talk to get myself out of the moment and distracted but some times the obsessive thought just won't stop and I get all emotional. Can be very embarrassing.

 

[Healingnow]

Welcome to the forums :hug: I hope this place helps you. It's very useful because of the bulk amount of...

Thanks

 

[Healingnow]

What are you aware of and have tread Healingnow?

I have tried self talk(which seems to work the best for me), removing myself from the triggering situation, ignoring and distracting myself.

 

[EveHarrington]

I personally use DBT and CBT skills, self soothing, grounding, distraction, and good old white knuckling it lol.

 

[Gs172003]

Great question! I am still trying to learn this myself-with the help of my therapist. So far we discu...

Me too baby. Me too.

 

[SometimesWriter]

Great question, and welcome to the forum, I'm new too! Maybe we can help each other - I dissociate so it's pretty easy for me not to feel emotional about something, ha ha! Sorry, not helpful.

I took another post's suggestion earlier today and worked on mindfulness while my BF was talking to me about an argument we'd had this morning. I usually get hyper defensive and shut down and stop feeling anything, but instead I made myself stay present by focusing on the grass and the gravel and the bugs and everything that was going on around us as he was speaking. It helped me to just sit and calmly listen and absorb what I could. I told myself I wasn't going to take this as a personal attack, he's allowed to voice his feelings and it doesn't mean I'm a bad person because he's unhappy with my behavior. And it worked, actually!

I'm not sure if mindfulness could help you - but maybe if you focus on something specific that's happening in the moment, it might help you not to focus on an initial, emotional, gut reaction and give you time to process your thoughts before you act on them?

 

[katz]

Sometimes I throw rocks out into a lake or just sit by the water. I also do a lot of writing. Why don't you write a letter to the "person" inside you, who is so angry? Tell them that it's ok to be upset. And how much you care.