Relationship Dating Someone With Ptsd Makes Me Feel Like I'm Crazy

[Ronin]

Can we please not argue the semantics.

This particular supporter is dealing with an aftermath of having been a supporter.
She's talking about her feelings, in a bloody section designed for doing precisely that.

Time to cut people some slack and leave them in peace without talking over them.

 

[Ronin]

Instead he makes me feel guilty for not staying.

Well that's his issue then, though?

Gaslighting is serious, its impact is serious, if that was an ongoing pattern in your relationship, no wonder you're out.
And emotionally abusing you with trying to guilt trip you isn't really doing anything to fix a thing, so this one is on him.

 

[Hojay]

That's like being mad at somebody for having to have a root canal when you have a fever blister.

Mh, I'd say sometimes it's more like being mad at someone for having a root canal, punching you because they're in pain, then shrugging at your broken nose...

 

[GoatBoston]

This is a supporter forum and sometimes supporters need to have a place of their own to discuss the vicarious trauma that happens to us. This is a safe place for supporters. Let's not attack supporterst or judge them.

If a relationship isn't healthy, or serving you you have every right to walk away. Being coerced to stay is unfair and questionable emotional abuse. Things with my guy are not perfect and I wonder about staying or going quite bit. I don't want anyone to guilt me or shame me for wanting a healthy loving relationship...the jury is still out for me, but I would hope that whatever decision me and my guy come to is met with empathy and support. Do you girl, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise!

 

[Gs172003]

This is a supporter forum and sometimes supporters need to have a place of their own to discuss the...

I will admit I jumped the gun but..I was responding to the original post. " I realize you're hurting but you're not the only one " and " he's making me feel guilty for leaving"

Nothing was said about what was done by him to her. Only what her response was to his pain.

I don't know the rest. And...I didn't realize this was the support forum at first. My apologies.

 

[Sweetpea76]

We welcome sufferer input... it's often very very helpful. We have some great people on the forum.

Sometimes a vent is just a frustrated vent though. It's not an all encompassing view on PTSD. I more than admit there have been times I've wanted to tell my vet to stuff his PTSD up his ass sideways... I wouldn't dare say that to him, but I may say it here among people who "get it" and understand how much compassion, effort, and love I pour into the relationship. Everybody has a bad day. Vent, cool off, eventually feel better.

I'm sure I've been vented about by him more than a few times too :whistling:

 

[questionsaboutrel]

We welcome sufferer input... it's often very very helpful. We have some great people on the forum....

Exactly, Sweetpea76. I saw the title of the post and thought boy, I can relate there. It can be a tough road where even as the non-sufferer, you question your own mental state. I hope Cali and her partner both find more peace this way.

 

[Sighs]

it's more like being mad at someone for having a root canal, punching you because they're in pain, then shrugging at your broken nose...

If I could like this comment a million times I would!

 

[aut555]

I get it, you're going through hell. But so are the people around you. That's all. Just needed to ve...

It's good you are talking about this, or venting. To keep it inside is unhealthy and stressful. There are no manuals for ptsd people,and it can be a dark long path. Some choose to hop off because the unknown is exactly that.

 

[Angela Corgan]

Just found thread. Didn't realise it was a venting one. I wouldn't mind a thread where people just write about coping mechanisms the ones that don't work and do!

 

[Amack]

Better to get it out.....some stuff we say on these threads or to our therapist we would never express to our sufferer. AND THAT is OK. That is why this place is safe and so encouraging to seek help. Even when we vent we will scroll through and learn better ways to deal with frustrations!!! We are all humans with emotions and that is OK....we supporters are not robots we have many emotions to deal with also.

There are several threads about coping mechanisms btw......scroll through they are there.

 

[B 2]

I get it. It's all so confusing. I love my husband. He means the world to me. He sees things that aren't there though. He can't trust. It constantly breaks down our relationship and, with that, my mental stability. Not coping