Sexual Assault Unsure how to define this - 2 years of um coerced sex

[Sideways]

Like I'm okay etc. I just don't get it. It's all melodramatic

Yeah. Totally melodramatic.

Until someone like me comes along and smacks you round the head with: you know that they make documentaries about stuff like this, right? Not stuff more awful than this.

Stuff like this.

Stuff like what you went through.

I can’t speak to what you ‘see in the movies’, because I haven’t set foot inside a cinema for years.

One of the uncomfortable realities for me? And potentially for you? Is that actually, what you went through is up there. They make documentaries on situations that are of equivalent awful to this.

Am I right thinking you were a homeless teen (ie. child?)?

Your case? Is one of the nasty ones. Not one of the lighter ones that no one would bother about because it’s all very *yawn*.

 

[Teasel]

Apart from the fact that you were 19 -21 what you went through sounds extraordinarily similar to the the Rochdale grooming gangs

 

[Chris-duck]

One of the uncomfortable realities for me? And potentially for you? Is that actually, what you went through is up there. They make documentaries on situations that are of equivalent awful to this

Um, I dont know how to react to this? Like yeah, I'm sorry. My brain short circuited or something. I dunno. Like yeah, I think I rationally know cos of documentaries I've seen, but I don't see it as the same?

Am I right thinking you were a homeless teen (ie. child?)?

Um, depends on what you count. I wasn't officially homeless til I was 19, when I was 18 I lived half in England and half in Scotland. I lived in Brazil at 17, and from 14-17 I officially lived with my parents but had easily hit the "kicked out/run away from home more often than at home" line. But wasn't really homeless til 19.

Your case? Is one of the nasty ones. Not one of the lighter ones that no one would bother about because it’s all very *yawn*

I don't see this. Like I get how I hit PTSD criteria. But so does everyone else here (Minus supporters). I don't think it really rates as a story on the forum but I also know I'm minimising because I don't care what reason I chuck at you for how it wasn't like that. Just as long as you understand it wasn't like that ;) :P

Apart from the fact that you were 19 -21 what you went through sounds extraordinarily similar to the the Link Removed

Yeaaahhh. I've seen that documentary and docudrama an absolute f*ckton of times, pretty sure out of the three girls in "Three Girls", I could assign real life people. But a big part of what made that really bad was the ages of the girls. There's also Huddersfield one too, but they were 13-17 (I think?). So it's different?

Ugh. Sorry. Worst replies. It's like 1.40am now and I'm up at 5 for work. I'mma stop thinking and try sleep. Sorry, I'm frustrating. Thanks for replies. I'll try again tomorrow

 

[piratelady]

So it's different?

The small difference in age doesn’t really change the situation that much.

 

[Gs172003]

I will never understand the age thing. There are grown women that are coerced into all kinds of things. I'm sure grown men too. I understand that kids are relying on adults for necessities but as far as being able to be coerced...the age thing I don't understand.

 

[Teasel]

Yeah I think if I were coerced into this at my age (40's) it would still be an horrific experience, I don't think it only counts as bad if only children are the victims.

Best to you x

 

[Chris-duck]

The small difference in age doesn’t really change the situation that much.

I dunno, legally it does. And developmentally 13 Vs 19 is pretty different.

I will never understand the age thing. There are grown women that are coerced into all kinds of things. I'm sure grown men too. I understand that kids are relying on adults for necessities but as far as being able to be coerced...the age thing I don't understand

Yeah I think if I were coerced into this at my age (40's) it would still be an horrific experience, I don't think it only counts as bad if only children are the victims

Sorry guys. I wasn't meaning to dismiss whatever happens to people as adults, I dunno. Its kinda just self blame blahblah. Like my fault it went on so long? Cos I knew it was f*cked at the time. And wasn't a child. And was still there two years. I don't get why. I dunno.

Best to you x

Thanks x

 

[Teasel]

I wasn't meaning to dismiss whatever happens to people as adults,

S'OK, didn't come across like you were

I dunno. Its kinda just self blame blahblah.

Understand

Like my fault it went on so long? Cos I knew it was f*cked at the time. And wasn't a child. And was still there two years. I don't get why. I dunno.

Nah, abuse is confusing, took me over a decade to know I was in an abusive relationship even though I knew it was wrong. Headf*ck.

 

[Gs172003]

S'OK, didn't come across like you were



Understand



Nah, abuse is confusing, took me over a decade to know I was in an abusive relationship even though I knew it was wrong. Headf*ck.

What she said.

 

[Sideways]

Um, depends on what you count. I wasn't officially homeless til I was 19, when I was 18 I lived half in England and half in Scotland. I lived in Brazil at 17, and from 14-17 I officially lived with my parents but had easily hit the "kicked out/run away from home more often than at home" line. But wasn't really homeless til 19.

This made me laugh!

I do the same thing - I was a teen. I mean, I was pretty much a teen. I was 12 for most of it, which is practically 13.

Any possible way we can minimise, our brains are all over it like a rash.

I understand that kids are relying on adults for necessities but as far as being able to be coerced...the age thing I don't understand.

You don’t understand how children are more vulnerable than adults???

 

[Gs172003]

You don’t understand how children are more vulnerable than adults???

No it's not that. It's that I don't understand how people don't get that adults can be coerced too.

 

[Chris-duck]

Nah, abuse is confusing, took me over a decade to know I was in an abusive relationship even though I knew it was wrong. Headf*ck.

Yeah. Sorry. I dunno. Assume I know nothing until further notice ?

Any possible way we can minimise, our brains are all over it like a rash.

Heh.. :shifty: I mean I had an address until 19. Which is basically not a teen ;)

No it's not that. It's that I don't understand how people don't get that adults can be coerced too

I can only speak for me. But it's not that I don't think adults can be coerced. Humans are human and can be coerced and manipulated. When I said it's different for 13 yos Vs 19yos I meant that it just is, imo. And I don't think I was coerced? Like nobody ever tried to convince me? I dunno if that makes it better or worse. It just wasn't that subtle I guess.