PreciousChild
MyPTSD Pro
I posted a thread that got a lot of replies a while back about anger. I feel pretty strongly that folks with ptsd should not use it as an excuse to target toxic anger onto others. The people who deserve our anger is our abusers, but we often cause our partners and children suffering by directing our anger at them which egregiously multiplies suffering in the world. I do believe that there is justified anger in response to not getting what you need from a partner, for example. And it's important to act on that feeling, communicate them, and find a resolution. But I think that people with ptsd can sometimes exploit those opportunities to boil over with anger that isn't deserved. I'm bringing this all up again because I read this article recently. I read something similar a while back. It questions the western notion that anger is like on reserve and needs to be vented once in a while. The truth is, getting angry leads to building up the habit of getting more angry. Refraining from anger helps getting in the habit of being cool. Inuit parents never get angry and sees it as immature and weak when parents do. The Inuit don't shout at their children – so why do we?