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What Is On Your Mind Right This Second?

I think that (although how do I know?, I haven't read it anywhere), that what explains why the IC is so nasty, or FOO messages matter, or therapeutic relationship predicts outcomes better than method, or why people say 'you don't understand me', outside of mind-reading, or many other examples, is perhaps so. I think it may be because whether the relationship was predominantly negative or positive, one is 'known', or presumed to be known. Whether that be family, a spouse, 'God', and/ or the Inner Critic. Even perceived positive vs negative regard, is going to influence what is absorbed, or trusted to be absorbed or not; if the regard is perceived negative, or clueless,, or actions are perceived as against, or disinterested, or unaware of who you are, it won't have influence. And so it explains why who's voice you will choose to believe, has more impact when cognitive re-framing.

I did learn, the quintessential question for every person to another person, and is the basis for every rupture is, 'Will you be there for me? Do you have my back? Can I trust you will come to me if I am in need?', because it is a basic survival question, hard-wired. And that answer determines everything, ultimately, to us.
 
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am i being selfish in wanting to my friend to sit and watch a movie with me(online of course) they keep cancelling under the guise that they need to take care of their mother, but i see them post all of the time and i wish they would just be honest with me. like just tell me you dont want to watch it! but whenever i say that they deflect and talk about how they really LOVE spending time with me but their mom blah blah blah... obviously not enough that youd rather post on instagram. like goddamn. ive known you 8 years and you cant sit and watch something with me for 45 f*cking minutes. i dont ask anything else of you. good god. tired of flakes.
 
am i being selfish in wanting to my friend to sit and watch a movie with me(online of course) they keep cancelling under the guise that they need to take care of their mother, but i see them post all of the time and i wish they would just be honest with me. like just tell me you dont want to watch it! but whenever i say that they deflect and talk about how they really LOVE spending time with me but their mom blah blah blah... obviously not enough that youd rather post on instagram. like goddamn. ive known you 8 years and you cant sit and watch something with me for 45 f*cking minutes. i dont ask anything else of you. good god. tired of flakes.
How do you watch a movie with someone online?
 
I'll be glad when these "like to blow shit up" m'r f'rs finish with their fireworks/explosions fiasco. All I can think of are the animals being tormented by each one (like the already tormented dairy cows I can hear down the road crying out in between explosions), be it wild, caged/exploited, or domestic, not to mention the human ones who had to endure various horrific battlefield explosions/traumas and must face this crap every year, all in the name of "celebrating". Item #704 on the list of mindless/stupid shit humans do.
 
So glad you got some rain, that should give you some additional protection. It's still early here, and I've been playing really loud music but I haven't heard anything around here yet....hopefully people get that it's tinder-dry outside...110 degrees today.
 
The number of pens in your purse is related proportionally to your work stress, and I just realized I have 8, so out go 6. And I'm not even a pen-klepto. :laugh: It's a good tip though, because it makes the subconscious conscious, and then it can be changed.
 
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