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Hi, I'm struggling with something my abuser said in court. I was married to him for over 20 years, it's been 15 years since my son and I escaped. He's retired LAPD and has always found us and continues to violate the DVRO I have on him.
I've never talked about the physical abuse to him or in court or to the police. It's something I'm working through in therapy, and I have a hard time with it.
Recently we went to court because he filed to have the current DVRO (that will expire in 3 months) terminated early because he's "never violated it in 14 years" and he's "never had any interaction with the police." All lies. I have the police reports to prove it. The DA has never filed charges against him because he's always got a good excuse as to why he violates the DVRO.
During his recent testimony in court, he told the judge that I lied and accused him of "strangling me, choking me out, pulling out my hair, locking me in a closet." He denied them and said if it was true, why weren't there police reports, etc.
Why would he say those things? I've never accused him of physically abusing me, let alone said specifics. I remember him strangling me and that I would lock myself in the extra bedroom at night to keep him from attacking and assaulting me.
It bothers me because if he says them, then they have to be true, they must have happened. I still struggle with that I guess because I don't want them to be true. But that's not all that I struggle with.
Why would he say things I never accused him of? Why bring it up on court on the record? It doesn't make sense to me at all.
I've never talked about the physical abuse to him or in court or to the police. It's something I'm working through in therapy, and I have a hard time with it.
Recently we went to court because he filed to have the current DVRO (that will expire in 3 months) terminated early because he's "never violated it in 14 years" and he's "never had any interaction with the police." All lies. I have the police reports to prove it. The DA has never filed charges against him because he's always got a good excuse as to why he violates the DVRO.
During his recent testimony in court, he told the judge that I lied and accused him of "strangling me, choking me out, pulling out my hair, locking me in a closet." He denied them and said if it was true, why weren't there police reports, etc.
Why would he say those things? I've never accused him of physically abusing me, let alone said specifics. I remember him strangling me and that I would lock myself in the extra bedroom at night to keep him from attacking and assaulting me.
It bothers me because if he says them, then they have to be true, they must have happened. I still struggle with that I guess because I don't want them to be true. But that's not all that I struggle with.
Why would he say things I never accused him of? Why bring it up on court on the record? It doesn't make sense to me at all.
