Sorry I Have Not Been Here, My Husband Finally Died At Home.

[Abrasky]

Sorry for your great loss Gizmo. I know you loved your husband a lot, and it makes me sad that you have lost him. I hope he is at peace.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Thank you all for your wise and comforting words and hugs and well wishes.

I am so exhausted by the caregiving for the last three years and I do feel relief that it is all over and my husband is at peace and rest at last.

I find myself doing things I have not been able to do for so many years.

My little dog was my husbands dog and she misses him very much and is bonding to me now. She is good company.

I was able to go through the house and bag up so much that needed to be gotten rid of along time.

I do feel relief and I do not have the worry, or anxiety about my husband falling and breaking something. I just wish he did not die so fast once it was his time.

I cannot express in words my deep appreciation to all of you and the great comfort you offer to me.

I have been trying to keep myself busy and yet getting rest too. I have been spending a lot of time with my family. I will go over to my daughters house tomorrow and spend the night. It will be four weeks sine he died tomorrow.

After being a caregiver for three years and he suffered from advanced dementia the last few months.

All I could do was take care of him and make him as comfortable as possible.

I am remembering all of the good times we had before he got the Parkinsons and dementia.

I am slowly coming back to life. I listened to music last night and this morning.

My family is being very supportive and loving for me.

We have a living trust but I have so many things to do. My daughter will take me to the Social Security office on Tuesday. She is taking me to all of the places I have to go to. I have accomplished so much over the phone. I am currently trying to change the title on our home.

I am slowly coming back to life. The loneliness is the worse I am grateful for my family, and my dog and my cat. I am sleeping ok.

I so missed all of you so much. Your support and care comfort me so.

 

[JustBe]

It's very good to have you back!:happy::hug:

 

[HëllaBubz]

Hi Gizmo,

I'm so pleased that you have your daughter to help you, I know that dealing with all of the formalities afterwards can be extremely messy, traumatic and downright unhelpful!

Often I think that animals are a wonderful way to help process things that happen to us, I'm really glad that you are finding comfort in your little dog, I'm sure she is really glad of your presence too!

Take care my dear, and keep us posted on how you go.

 

[piratelady]

I am sorry for your loss Gizmo. :hug: Sorry, I can't think of anything else to say.

 

[AS1975]

Best wishes and thoughts out to you Gizmo. Nothing I (or anyone else) can say can make it better, all we can do is show support.

 

[saffy]

Hi Gizmo

Deepest sympathy to your loss. He is now at peace.

That is really good news about your daughters restraining order. Brilliant. Justice at last.

Thinking of you :)

best wishes
Saffy

 

[Whitneys story]

Gizmo, I know you will be busy sorting out. Please remember to plan me time. You have done an outstanding job taking care of all the hubby's needs and household.

Allow yourself time for grieving. And when you feel lonely we will be here with open arms. Rooting you on as you have done for so many.

Behemoth Hugs, Whitney :hug:

PS: Call me big mouth. Have you heard about a little Bubzie?

 

[HëllaBubz]

PS: Call me big mouth. Have you heard about a little Bubzie?

Big mouth. ;)

 

[aka]

Glad to hear from you Gizmo. My deepest condolences for the loss of your husband. :hug:

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Thank you all for your support, it means so much to me and comforts me so. I wish I could give you all a real hug of appreciation.

Yesterday I was at my daughters house and I spent the night there. It helps me to get out of the house.

I missed my husband so much today. I have a shirt of his that I hug and hang onto during the times I miss him so.

I have been remembering all of the good times before the diseases afflicted his mind and body.

Tommorow I have to go to the Social Security office and give them a death certificate. I am entitled to a small check for buriel benefits My daughter will go with me. I am so glad I do not have to do these kinds of things alone.

On Wednesday, I get a new dvd player installed so I will be able to watch my movies again.

I have to call a contractor to do some work for me around this place. My husband would not let me do that. I hope it is not to expensive.

I am trying to stay busy.

But I miss him so much. He was my soulmate. He and I loved each other so very much. I was so loved and taken care of by him. He did so many wonderful things for me.

I am slowly getting used to being alone. I am so grateful for my family and my pets.

I still have so many things to do. I am taking it slowly. It has been four weeks since he died.

I am so jealous of all of the older couples I see that still have each other.

I got a phone call from a dear friend today and I am so grateful for her. She is such a source of comfort and encouragement.

Oh and by the way congratulations on the new little Bubzie. I think that it is wonderful news and I wish you all of the best. Thanks Whitney for the great news.

 

[HëllaBubz]

Little Bubzie is due 7th Dec.
After hearing about your husband, it makes me even more determined to fill my marriage with as many wonderful moments as I can.
Im so glad that you're finding comfort in those around, however it is painfully clear to me just how much you miss him.

Take care of yourself, and enjoy the good memories as they come, I'm sure you've been in this game long enough to know that tears empty out the heart to make room for more love.

Xo