Trust Issues

[Truthful_Whispers]

I can relate and with a current diagnosis of Complex PTSD, I want to reach out but my thoughts tell me to...

Maybe this pdf will help. Hope you feel better soon.

 

[joeylittle]

@Whispering_Truth, unfortunately that pdf you attached is protected against unauthorized reproduction - if you do have permission to reproduce it, please let us know via the Help Desk and it can be restored.

For anyone interested in seeking out the information, the title is 'Advances In Treatment Of Complex Regional Pain Syndrome: Recent Insights On A Perplexing Disease', and the authors are Sharma, Williams, and Raja. It was published in Current Opinion In Anaesthesiology, 2006

 

[Truthful_Whispers]

@Whispering_Truth, unfortunately that pdf you attached is protected against unauth...

I understand. Was trying to help out a little.

 

[joeylittle]

No worries. It's why I excerpted the title and author.

Do you have trust issues which put impact lot on how you live or approach people?

I think I'm too trusting in my professional life, and don't even understand what trust is, really, in my personal life. One might lead to the other. I'm constantly being disappointed by people behaving badly.

 

[Deleted member 29961]

I sometimes wonder if our trust issues with others is because we set our expectations of them too high? I know that I set my expectations for myself fairly high and I tend to expect others to meet them as well.

 

[Tinyflame]

Not for me I don't think @Jigsaw Puzzle , if anything I kind of expect the trust isn't really founded, or just won't last. And perhaps that that is what I deserve.

However, I think trust is maybe so difficult because the cost of misplacing it (for us) is so very terribly high. :( And it's all such a risk.

That being said, I had a strange experience. Something (unrelated to anything) startled me today (jumped -actually flew- out of a bookcase), & all of a sudden it was like my brain got scrambled/ unscrambled(?) & I thought, I don't have much for alternatives: if I carry on as I am it will most definitely end in my demise- pushing harder (white knuckling) & trying to be stronger seems to make things worse. :( The other alternative is trust, & that involves total vulnerability. (Which if I'm honest really 'sucks' as an alternative, lol. :rolleyes: :( ).

I think what is awful about trust is it's like putting yourself in someone's else's hands, relying that the trust won't be broken. But knowing full well it always has been, or with the rarest exception not. And knowing at the same time that we as people are all fallible. Even 'God' or a HP, if one believes in something greater, works through people & practical ways (so they say). But we can't really avoid people or we're back to the first option. :( I actually (seriously) feel sick to my stomach even typing this.

Yikes what thoughts or realizations a 10 minute break and a bug in a bookcase can start. :rolleyes: :) :sick::hungover:

 

[Deleted member 29961]

However, I think trust is maybe so difficult because the cost of misplacing it (for us) is so very terribly high.

Yeah, I agree. I know with me, once my trust is lost, there is no regaining it. That person will forever remain untrustworthy.

 

[Tinyflame]

with me, once my trust is lost, there is no regaining it.

Yes @Jigsaw Puzzle I think that's pretty normal & common. For myself (but I'm pretty weird- not common & definitely not 'normal'! :rolleyes: ) I go more by 'feel' & current actions, & if it can be repaired (forgiveness, remorse, plan not to repeat it, mitigating factors or realities, responsibility, perceived genuineness etc. But I also know I can do the same, I can be at fault with them or others.) . Of course, it depends too in what ways the trust is broken.

I think for trust to be restored you have to start new, either without the other person, or if with them not holding it against them & never throwing it back in their face.