Relationship He Doesn't Want To Be Happy?

[journey31]

The only thing to get is to get away from the relationship.

Yeah. I haven't talked to him in a little over a week. I'm not going to contact him.

 

[Knak]

Yeah. I haven't talked to him in a little over a week. I'm not going to contact him.

I will pray for your strength

 

[journey31]

I will pray for your strength

Thank you. We have talked, but just small talk. And very infrequently. I am giving him space, but popping up occasionally so he knows I still care. I guess the idea of a relationship is dead, but I don't want to lose everything with him

 

[Knak]

Thank you. We have talked, but just small talk. And very infrequently. I am giving him space, but p...

All I can say, from my own experience is that any investment in him is a bad one that will take away from you. Take advantage of the opportunity to grow by cutting it off completely. You will feel good that you can do it. Later when you can see it objectively from a distance, you realize that some people are not what you wish they were if someone just helped them (you). It strengthens your identity and boundaries and creates reality.

There is no immediate reward, plus there is sorrow from grieving the loss, but is the only way to teach you to recognize healthier people instead of repeating the mistake.

That is what real life is meant for - to grow emotionally and have joy in your successes.

 

[journey31]

All I can say, from my own experience is that any investment in him is a bad one that will take away from yo...

I've tried to cut it off completely. This guy has me like no other has. I even accepted a date with someone. Then it caused me to break down and realize I am not ready to let go of him. And cancelled. Like even a friend told me the way I was acting I shouldn't be going. I was crying and that's not how you act when you're going on a date.

 

[Knak]

I've tried to cut it off completely. This guy has me like no other has. I even accepted a date with s...

So you might consider investing in something else and use discipline to keep him off your mind. I have done that and it takes a long time and it is hard but it worked and I no longer have the same problem in other similar cases.

Otherwise that is all I have to say and it is up to you. Good luck. Try prayer, join a church and develop faith in God who loves you more than you could ever know.

I can't continue to revisit your problem. Sorry.