It was almost 2 years ago I first visited this wonderful forum. I have not been on for a little over a year. But I am back again to check in on how it's all going, how a few of the people I came to care about are going, and to give some updates.
Some of you may remember me... I was the desperate wife of a PTSD sufferer who was drawing away from me after a motor vehicle accident. He left our home, feeling smothered after I was trying so hard to care for him, not realising it was not the best way to be with him.
I came to this forum as part of my effort to learn as much as i could about PTSD, so that I could be the best carer I possibly could be.
I am now the ex-wife of that man. He never did come home. I learned on Christmas morning, 2007, that he was having an affair and that was the unforgivable end. Compounding with everything else he had done, there was no coming back from that.
Now he is in prison for the motor vehicle accident that caused his PTSD in the first place and he is the father of a child he has had to the woman he had the affair with. I have had no contact with him for about a year and a half. Except for indirect contact relating to our divorce. The divorce is a drama in itself, because he owes his father so much money, that his father has such an interest in his assets, I am effectively fighting his bully Dad for my share of our house. Thankfully a court trial should put that all to an end within a couple of months. It can't come soon enough. In the end the legal fees alone will cost me over thirty thousand dollars ($AUD). It's been a tough road.
Today the Certificate of Divorce came in the mail. Quite a symbolic day really.
After all I have been through with a man that couldn't be saved from his self-destruction, no matter how hard I tried, because he simply didn't want to be helped, I have come out the other side.
I am no longer ashamed to say that I am divorced.
I am no longer crying myself to sleep each morning.
I no longer struggle to get out of bed in the morning under a heavy cloud of depression.
I no longer explode crying the moment I get in my house after struggling to hold back tears all day.
I no longer have to shamefully ask my family for money because my legal battles are costing more than I have to spare.
I no longer neglect myself because I am alwats putting someone else first.
And I no longer wonder if I will ever love again - I am in a wonderfully healthy and happy relationship with an amazing, caring, smart funny man.
I can only hope that everyone else I came to know and care about on this forum are all doing well too.
I also hope that any of you who might be reading this and feel like you don't think you will ever feel content and happy for a length of time again, can recognise that you will. And that this forum can help you to achieve that. Hopefully thanks to this community, no matter what, none of you will ever feel alone.
Looking forward to catching up with some of you!
Some of you may remember me... I was the desperate wife of a PTSD sufferer who was drawing away from me after a motor vehicle accident. He left our home, feeling smothered after I was trying so hard to care for him, not realising it was not the best way to be with him.
I came to this forum as part of my effort to learn as much as i could about PTSD, so that I could be the best carer I possibly could be.
I am now the ex-wife of that man. He never did come home. I learned on Christmas morning, 2007, that he was having an affair and that was the unforgivable end. Compounding with everything else he had done, there was no coming back from that.
Now he is in prison for the motor vehicle accident that caused his PTSD in the first place and he is the father of a child he has had to the woman he had the affair with. I have had no contact with him for about a year and a half. Except for indirect contact relating to our divorce. The divorce is a drama in itself, because he owes his father so much money, that his father has such an interest in his assets, I am effectively fighting his bully Dad for my share of our house. Thankfully a court trial should put that all to an end within a couple of months. It can't come soon enough. In the end the legal fees alone will cost me over thirty thousand dollars ($AUD). It's been a tough road.
Today the Certificate of Divorce came in the mail. Quite a symbolic day really.
After all I have been through with a man that couldn't be saved from his self-destruction, no matter how hard I tried, because he simply didn't want to be helped, I have come out the other side.
I am no longer ashamed to say that I am divorced.
I am no longer crying myself to sleep each morning.
I no longer struggle to get out of bed in the morning under a heavy cloud of depression.
I no longer explode crying the moment I get in my house after struggling to hold back tears all day.
I no longer have to shamefully ask my family for money because my legal battles are costing more than I have to spare.
I no longer neglect myself because I am alwats putting someone else first.
And I no longer wonder if I will ever love again - I am in a wonderfully healthy and happy relationship with an amazing, caring, smart funny man.
I can only hope that everyone else I came to know and care about on this forum are all doing well too.
I also hope that any of you who might be reading this and feel like you don't think you will ever feel content and happy for a length of time again, can recognise that you will. And that this forum can help you to achieve that. Hopefully thanks to this community, no matter what, none of you will ever feel alone.
Looking forward to catching up with some of you!
