Are You Scared Of The Name Of Your Abuser(s)?

[BloomInWinter]

I still have some of this. But it's much better.

I started writing down their names, in a quiet, comfortable place so I could tolerate the triggering. This low-dose exposure therapy worked well just by reading them over and over. Then, I started saying them. I had to accept the distress and tolerate the triggering of repeating then out loud.

Then, I finally disabled their names as triggers to destroying my peace of mind in the present. I refuse to allow them to ruin even a second more of whatever time I have left in this world.

It gets better. Hang in there.

 

[Sammyiam]

I have never been able to say their names out loud not even once, lucky they aren't very common I just dodge around it if I have to. I just carn't bring myself to say it.

 

[FindingMyself88]

I cannot stand to hear the name of my ex stepmom (thankfully it is a rare name) or my cousin. They both sexually molested me. My ex stepmom is worse due to not only did she do that, she also caused a LOT of my physical abuse and because of her and my dad's violent fights. I get physically sick and almost always have flashbacks when her name is mentioned. I just get extremely uncomfortable and fidgety when my cousin's is mentioned.