Other Coping After The Us Election.

[theshadowoftheliving]

I'm panicking because I am one of the many, many people on Obama Care and I don't know what I will do when it disappears - my therapist is connected to it, my health care is connected to it, and I don't have the means to continue to see her or get treatment if I can't get assistance with paying for it. I'm just so terrified and I don't know what to do.i just sent her an email asking for reassurance that she won't disappear, but even if I get that, I'm not sure that I will be able to believe it.

 

[amc1024]

ADMINISTRATOR NOTE: I appreciate that there is ongoing stress around the election of the US p...

I cannot imagine the pain and hurt you must be feeling right now. My heart hurts knowing many people who have been sexually assaulted are struggling greatly after the presidential election. And the sad part is that this is not limited to only people who have experienced sexual assault, many people have had anxiety from this election and from Trump being elected. My heart goes out to you and all others struggling right now. Even if the rest of the country doesn't understand how badly this hurts some, we do. :cry::hug:

 

[lostforgottensoul]

I don't know what I will do when it disappears

I hope it won't go away before the new one is in place.

I know many on here has expressed this fear.

 

[Fadeaway]

He has given us a lot of things to worry about, but as my husband reminded me today, many of those things would require him to overturn a supreme court ruling, which he can not do. That includes Obama care and Roe vs.Wade. Of course , we do have an opening on the bench, and whomever he picks as the new supreme court justice could be an issue for future rulings.

 

[kath3141]

I'm so glad to hear I'm not the only one. Again, I don't want to get into a political debate, but the rhetoric has certainly been triggery. I spiraled out of controll emotionally when I heard people I'm close to dismiss and belittle those that are hurt by rhetoric. It took me back to when my own feelings were handled in the same way. Coming from family made it worse.

I've not been on mess lately and have been stable without it,,,,but realize now I probably need to get back on something.....

...I hate these emotional flashbacks

 

[KwanYingirl]

I am struggling with PTSD inflamed by the candidate. He represents every evil abuser in my life. I literally can't speak. Here it is middle of the night and I can't sleep. I am drifting in and out of awareness. The words the tone of mysogany the bullying. I am heartbroken. Of course I have been ivermedicating and have had to deal with suicidal thoughts. I guess life goes on. I won't be watching tv. I managed to make it to work today but I am just so dumbfounded. We know for certain the lack of concern for anyone he abuses. If it helps at all, remember that he has to go to trial for racketeering. I believe it's Nov 28. He will try to get out of it. My fantasy is that he gets convicted, jailed and removed from public service. He will be dealing with many lawsuits regarding his sexual abuse. It feels like rubbing salt into my wounds. So evil my words can't describe how terrified I am.

 

[kath3141]

@KwanYingirl, I feel exactly as you do....these last two days have been horrible...for what it's worth I'm right here with you struggling as well....

 

[Noxyoursox]

I was all ready to face the day with courage (after three hours of sleep and a couple ibuprofen for my shoulders that hurt from shaking) but the violent incidents I have seen all over social media today have me panicking all over again. I spent most of today organizing and participating in protests because I had to do something, anything but just sit in my room being scared to go outside. There are neo-nazis who were already out and active where I live even before this. I am scared for my life and for the lives of my friends who are trans and/or POC, some of whom have already been threatened or are staying home because the people outside might hurt them. This isn't even anxiety doing it's thing right now, I would be so much happier if I could blame it on my f*cked up brain. This is real.

 

[kath3141]

I'm interested in suggestions/thoughts/advice regarding the idea of being thrown in a world that was once safe but now feels like a triggery minefield....I need to figure out a set of coping skills to endure this setback and handle painful memories or flashbacks as they come up.....

What I literally plan to do is cut-n-paste into my iPhone notes app advice from others or words of encouragement when my emotions spin out of controll. I hate feeling like this. I've worked hard to improve my relationships, my home and work environment.... I hate feeling off balance in an unsafe world.....

Thx for your words/thoughts/advice

 

[scout86]

There's no use in panicking sooner than you have to. (Actually, panic isn't going to help anyway.)

It's hard to know what will happen with health care. It sounds like, what ever happens, it won't happen real fast or with no warning. When I started therapy, I didn't have insurance and paid my own way. He had a siding scale. It was my second biggest monthly expense, but was worth it. It's good to check stuff out now. Usually knowing is better than not knowing and preparing is better than being paralyzed with fear. Think ahead, try to prepare, it gives you the feeling of having some control and that helps. Our at least it can.

As far as the world being "safe" or not that's a relative thing and a moving target. There's something to be said for knowing who you need to watch out for.

 

[Missycat]

I feel for all my american friends :hug: actually i feel for everyone as this is being felt across the world.
I dont want to watch tv at the moment as it upsets me cos im reminded of whats happened so i have my itunes and earphones to hand on my phone.
I see an egotistical bully who gets what they want no matter what - makes me feel sick as its a reminder of my abuser. :(
Sad and numb :confused:

 

[BearLife]

I am there as well, as a big guy who grew up surrounded by people like that. It is real, it exists, it is a widespread disease and a lack of humanity… the dirty little secret of the Good Ol’ Boys Club that I was once a part of myself. With great shame do I say this. That may be part of why I am so sickened.

I had a panic attack the morning I got up and saw the news as it was just rolling out, so I eventually rallied myself to drive through the neighborhood to calm down. Ended up with a spinning head, nearly hitting a parked car, and seeking in a mentally ill stupor the solace of my confines, safe at home. I am scared to live in this new world, to be blunt. It was all too much, all too real and too close to home.

Yesterday was spent physically and mentally locked up in panic, fear, anger, distrust … This morning I almost vomited when I remembered.

While I have not to my knowledge been sexually abused, it is within the scope of possibility for sources of my C-PTSD. I did deal with a highly narcissistic father who recently admitted (in other words) that he intentionally bullied me, in fact, reveled in it.

To see an abusive, misogynist, racist, manipulative and repugnant human being take a seat of power over me again (not to mention that in our global community) has me heart broken, panicked, and stricken with fear.

I will share with you this quote from Khalil Gibran, a great author of another age, when rhetoric meant something of elevation, not deprivation: “Out of suffering have emerged the strongest of souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars.” (“The Prophet” - 1923)

So, I will suit up again today and keep battling for the sake of my sanity and that of a positive future filled with light, laughter, and love. A sad time, but one filled with the opportunity to learn about and make smart decisions regarding self care.

Love and peace in my heart for those who are suffering also, regardless of our shared or distinct traumas.
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(Thank you to the site admins/owners, OP, and contributors — your words have helped, as does expressing something only a narrow population truly understands.)