Do You Ever Try To Make Sense Of Why It Happened?

[Padfoot]

Once again I'm sitting in bed with my mind buzzing, trying to figure out why it happened, how it happened, ways it could have been prevented. Wondering what will happen next, what will happen to him, what will the future hold? Unsure of what life will be like, and if it even matters, if any of it even matters.

 

[Flyaway]

I think about it a lot! I don't have answers that will make it all better... but I believe with all my heart that it does matter! I believe your and my fight makes a big difference to so many other people out there.

When it all gets too much for me I try and focus of the big picture... this life really doesn't last long, especially compared to the eternity i believe we will live. We are all in this together, each life effects many other lives. I hope my fight can make a difference for future generations.


Hope this helps a little!

 

[Padfoot]

I want so much to fix things. When I think about the children I teach it breaks my heart to know a percentage of them will be raped, it breaks my heart also to know that a percentage of them will be the ones to commit that crime. What can we do about it so it doesn't happen?

 

[Kas_Can_Fly]

Yes, very frequently. I think truthfully that I will never know or understand it, I simply don't have the capability to. No matter how much I try to reason why - because surely there must have been a reason, the more I find I'm pretty sure there isn't one and some people are just evil. For me I know that not everyone isn't evil, but I can't know unless they do something evil, that they aren't, lose-lose. These are all questions I don't think we can know the answer to; reasoning them is something we haunt ourselves with as a necessity, because if we don't, we can't be sure we're safe or prepared or known within a certain percentage of certainty. What's worse is if we did let these questions go our life would probably be much easier, but for me, with out those questions, who and where (mentally) would I be.

I hope you and your daughter are doing OK at the moment and that you two get what you deserve, peace of mind, security, safety, a fresh start and justice. I also hope that 'he' gets what he deserves; a long and uncomfortable sentence (to say the least).

Stay strong. xx

 

[Kas_Can_Fly]

You can't protect everyone in the world Padfoot, it's just not possible. Everyone should protect their own and we should help them with that where we can. I think the only thing that can be done, is raise awareness and reinforce good morals and actions from birth. Rape is wrong and should never be justified and every person; man, woman and child should know that. There will always be bad people, it's such a shame :(

 

[Flyaway]

I think there needs to be a shift in the way we educate. I think children need to spend a lot more time focused on understanding responsibility, and how they impact the world. What use is knowledge/facts if they cant be used to do good? It will take time, but I think it can happen!

 

[arfie]

For me, personally, that buzzing mind is an important factor all by itself. When the space between my head is sounding like a NASCAR event, I don't have enough serenity to distinguish what is or is not important. The thoughts buzzing circles in my head take on lives of their own. My attention is more focused on the profundities in my head than the world in front of my face. I shift my therapy program to nothing more than quieting that head noise. "Nothing more..." Quieting my run-away thought loops is quite a feat, all by itself.

But that is me. Hope you find what it is for you, Padfoot.

 

[graceandhope1241]

I did for a longtime. I never thought my boyfriend would assault me and it happened shattering my life and every sense of safety, security and normalcy. This thought led me to blaming myself and wallowing that I suffered....eventually I accepted I will never know why he did it, but it bad nothing to do with me, he chose to do evil.