Does Beauty Come In A Bottle????

[Deleted member 1860]

@WildMermaid,

Yes, the red splotchiness is my biggest problem at times! I usually just aim for an even skin tone. Truth be told, most of the time people don't even think I'm wearing makeup. I've even had people comment about my lack of makeup! (that was a bit odd, but I took it as a compliment in that I guess I'm wearing it the right way....I really do believe the best way to wear makeup is to make it look like you're wearing none at all (or very little). Tammy Faye Baker? No thank you! (Do you remember her? 80's wife of a Televangelist. Whoa, Talk about eye shadow overkill! LOL)

 

[Deleted member 1860]

Jess,

I went to the mall last month and this guy was trying to sell me WAY overpriced salts from the dead sea. He grabbed my arm and started to apply the product. He asked me if I had taken a shower and I said yes, I had....but then proceeded to lift extra dead skin cells from my arm and used that as "proof" that I needed his product in order to get all of that extra skin off of my body. Uhm, no....somehow I don't think that proving I'm still dirty is a way to sell your product! I just came home and worked extra hard at exfoliating from then on LMAO.

These people ARE ruthless because the more they sell, the more they make. I am definitely of the school of thought that you don't need to buy all those expensive products, rather its important to buy only what you want and need and what works for you. Quite often, a company will have one product that works well, but the others, not so much! But they still try to sell you the entire line because supposedly you need ALL of them to get full benefit. You really can find some great low end products out there, so its not a matter of spending an arm and a leg. Granted, I do splurge on a few items, but for the most part, I don't buy the top of the line stuff because it doesn't really work all that much better.

Makeup is not going to land you in a relationship! If you go out, you may want to put on a little gloss or something like that as a way of "dressing up" a bit, but I wouldn't say that you need makeup to land a man! That's just crazy! Its important for you to feel comfortable in your own skin. In fact, I've heard some guys say that they LOVE a woman who is natural.....other guys like a woman who dresses up from time to time with makeup, but also feels just as comfortable in her own skin and doesn't need makeup to run to the corner store. Honestly, Natural is better! I'm not saying all makeup is bad, but I do think that a natural looking human is by far more beautiful than one who is fake. (Blowfish lips, anyone? LOL)

 

[WildMermaid]

There are as many kinds of beauty as there are human beings. :)

 

[Friday]

I'm partial to a bit of eyeliner myself, both on me and others, but it'd take a lot more than that to get me interested in you, and the 'lot more' would have nothing to do with cosmetics or anything else you wear on the surface.

<chuckling> I've got a bit of a thing for men who occasionally wear eyeliner. Lmao. Not as a prerequisite, but it's definitely a bit of a thing, flutter, oh my! :roflmao:

 

[WildMermaid]

@FridayJones I have that as well. O.O

 

[J_trustno1]

Thanks @Solara. Yes, you are right. I only wear a bit of foundation only and only if it is necessary for a special occasion but i usually avoid this stuff. Yes, lip gloss or lip balm are better alternatives to lipstick and I'm going to the pharmacy for that. I only wore lipstick for month in a row but before I never bothered unless attending a party or special occasion. There is no need for all that for me in my personal opinion.

These things contain carcinogens and xenoestrogens as preservatives that play with your hormones and some of these chemicals can cause infertility. I worked in inorganic labs and we were told to keep away from touching or smelling some chemicals as some cause respiratory problems, some affect memory and some can cause impotence in men and affect women's overies just with smell. Now imagine these preservatives going on your skin?? Even if you ingest these chemicals your immune system will fight it because of blood-brain barrier but if you put them directly on your skin you don't have blood-brain barrier and it is directly in your system.

That is the reason why I avoid them. The cosmetic industries hide a lot of chemicals in ingredients section despite them being banned by the chemical society and government. So you really have no idea what is entering your system from a simple foundation or powder which contains certain amounts of Lead which is very toxic and can cause respiratory problems.

Sorry guys, enough of scaring everyone but that's the reality of cosmetics.

 

[Friday]

I'm another makeup junkie. From the subtle touch to cirque du soleil. :D There is simply crazy artisty involved (or there can be). With the right application you can completely change your features, from the bone structure of your face all the way onward. Especially if there's a camera involved? I can look like a dozen different people, with just a few motions of my hand. Or, better, someone else's hand! Professional makeup artists preform time limited magic. Even without a camera, I can seriously change the way I look. I don't, usually, but it's still fun to do so from time to time.

Human beauty is a maths problem. Doesn't matter what your features are, the ratio of how symmetrical your face is determines how beautiful your face is seen by others. Body type is just personal preference, as everything from waifish to athletic to Reubenesque will get someone's blood all het up, and find them absolutely irresistibly delicious. Some of that is by culture (parts of the west prefer waif, parts of Africa prefer Reuben's standard), but it's mostly an individual thing.

Now, personally, I fell outta the ugly tree & hit every branch on the way down. Parents used to tie a hambone around my neck so the dog would play with me ;) :D hah! ). I honestly don't care. If I did? The symmetry is easily fixed with a scalpel & skilled surgeon. Voila. But I really don't care. This ugly mug hasn't slowed me down since highschool when I was all insecure about it.

That's the thing that makeup "fixes" in most people. Not their appearance, which is fine with or without makeup (and almost virtually identical, unless they're going for theatrical / temporary scalpel changes)... But their confidence. And confidence is sexy as hell. Regardless of what face is wearing it.

Makeup doesn't / didn't affect my confidence. Discovering what odd creatures men are, and how they really just don't give a damn? <chuckling> That sorted it.

 

[RussH]

While it is true that there are people with natural physical beauty, and others not so much. I cannot not help but think of one of the greatest speeches in the twentieth century, "I have a Dream" by Martin Luther King Jr. In that speech he stated that "I have a dream that one day these girls will not be judged by the color of their skin, but the content of their character"
I would say that the beauty of good character far outweighs the physical appearance of a person.

 

[J_trustno1]

I'm totally with you on that saying @RussH. It's simple yet complex to many women because us women even myself included are very insecure about our looks. Although I don't do makeup but that doesn't mean I am not insecure.

 

[Nighthawk]

I think I have only worn make up twice in my lifetime and I was forced to both times. I hate the way it smells and how it feels. If beauty is sold in a bottel I guess I must be rather ugly.

 

[WildMermaid]

I grew up hearing how fat and ugly I was from my evil stepfather every single day until age 14. I was an odd looking kid, and that really has not changed. At some point we just have to say I'm okay with this face, most of the bones are close to where they should be, only a few scars, and I'm lucky to be alive. After that it becomes easier to not worry quite as much what others think.

 

[J_trustno1]

@WildMermaid: I can relate to almost everything you have said. I was bullied by my biological father every single day of my life about my height, looks, weight and he gave me names for my height. Then my father's father made predictions about my height even when I was a toddler saying that I'll be midget like my maternal grandma which I am NOT.

My mum's narcissistic brother bullied me for having high goals, my skin color, my looks and my weight.

Then comes my mum's bitch sisters who made fun of my height, face, dressing sense, being a high achiever and my skin color and hair on my arms or legs and some minor facial hair. Mum's sisters tried introducing me to makeup from the age of 12 , ever since we arrived in NZ. They bleached my face so I look lighter not as dark. They cut my hair so I don't look like a typical Indian and as a kid, YES I wanted to look good. Mum's middle sister (pedophiles wife) compared my waist to a bollywood actress who was brobably 25 something saying that I have a thick waist and that was only when I was 12!!! This induced me into eating problems. I stopped eating throughout the day and only ate once losing 12 kg in 3 months!!!

Mum's younger sister took me to her house for holidays and put those face masks so that I was NOT dark.

The pedophiles wife gave me a foundation when I was only 12!!! She also insisted me waxing my legs and arms from that age. Then she started threading my upper lip tiny hair. Her pedophile husband also made fun of any hair that was on my face and I was a bloody 12 year old!!!! Yet these hypocrites wouldn't let their son who was 13 to shave his underarms because "his skin was fragile and he was young! !!". YES, you heard it!! Their son was sensitive at 13 but I was NOT when I was 12!!! She also introduced me to hair removing creams which caused me skin irritations. The younger sister also introduced me to facial waxes that you heat and use on your facial skin and I was 13-14 then.

I was also bullied at school by other Indian kids who spoke English while I was new to the country and didn't understand or speak English. White kids made fun of my long hair. And one of the Islander bully girl threatened me that she'll burn my hair. Therefore, I ended up cutting my long hair at the age of 14. My hair were up to my waist but not anymore. When I chopped my hair, the girls at school called my hair bush and the hairdresser said my hair were bushy and she can't style them well.

Then other girls from school called me ugly and so did my father plus mum's siblings. They all wanted their kids to look like my brother not me because my brother was better looking than I.

All these things get on my head whenever I see good looking people and I end up thinking that I need to compete with them to be accepted. I feel that I am not good looking and I don't deserve good things or a good looking guy. That is why I was upset for a whole week and crying n beating myself n feeling guilty for finding that guy from Bank attractive.