Felt Proud Of Myself.

[rightkindofme]

I'm having some interpersonal issues with someone in my life. The full circumstance isn't important. My therapist wanted to delve deep into defending the other persons point of view. Given that I've already spent a lot of hours writing about their point of view on my blog I was cranky about that.

So I told my shrink to stop. I said, "I am not interested in paying to hear you defend that point of view right now."

Her jaw dropped and her eyes bugged. She blinked hard a few times then said, "Then what are you interested in discussing right now?"

It took me a few seconds to get it together but then the rest of session carried on very well. I was happy with myself for having the boundary. It doesn't materially affect my life to hear her defend this person so I wasn't avoiding "doing the hard therapy work". I was choosing to not pay to hear my therapist defend someone I'm having troubles with. I don't need to pay for those lectures. I can get them for free.

It felt good. Therapists are service providers. They aren't automations and they don't just say what you want them to say... but you can have boundaries too. It's hard and scary. But man I'm glad I cut her off.

 

[Chosen]

Wow! that's awesome!

 

[garden]

Good for you. I am learning a lot about boundaries right now (among other things), and boy are they hard to define and put down (for me).

 

[WildMermaid]

*high fives* @rightkindofme big time bravo on that! :)

 

[The Albatross]

Hmmm. You brought it up in therapy but directed the session away. Not a bad or good thing. If it wasn't your biggest 'fish to fry' all well and good but I'd give some contemplation as to why you brought it up at your session.

 

[rightkindofme]

I brought it up to continue explaining what was happening in an ongoing situation. I don't desire her help with the topic. She just wanted to know how things were progressing.

I do a lot of treating therapists as substitute parents. I want them to know what is going on with me, not necessarily to micromanage it.