From victim to survivor to thriver

[Deleted member 8714]

While researching one topic I found this table which maps out how ones goes from a victim to a survivor and finally to a thriver.

It answers some questions such as;
"Will I ever get over this?"
"Will I always feel damaged?"

 

[Beans]

Omg! Thanks for the great resource! I def see my progression from mostly victim to mostly survivor. Now even getting some glimpses of thriving! Sometimes it's nice to have a reference point.

 

[AnD]

Thank, you!

 

[Let It Be]

Thank you so much!

I am so interested in studying this so I just printed it off so I can take my time to see where I am, where I was, and where I want to be!

 

[Teasel]

It's years since I saw this last. I'm a yo-yoer for sure but I can see a huge change towards thriver compared to the last time I saw this which is just lovely :inlove:

 

[EveHarrington]

Nice, with ONE flaw.

My hypervigilance does NOT mean I'm a victim!

I have a hyper sensitive system that is neurologically damaged.

<gets off soap box>

 

[ineedtoheal]

While researching one topic I found this table which maps out how ones goes from a victim to a surviv...

can i ask please, has anyone else gone from victim to immediately feeling like you were starting to thrive, and then to come crashing back to struggling to survive? and it was all triggered by bullying, also discovering my perpetrator and others had infiltrated my personal/business space - what it showed me again is how i was never one to so much experience "fight or flight" - i would always just "freeze". It was this understanding that then saw all the childhood/teenage stuff coming flooding back.
so from all of that, it seems my healing was "false", as i hadn't actually faced all the other stuff from further back?

 

[Teasel]

can i ask please, has anyone else gone from victim to immediately feeling like you were starting to thrive, and th...

Hi, that sounds pretty normal to me :-) I think healing is rarely a smooth ride
Best to you X

 

[Deleted member 8714]

has anyone else gone from victim to immediately feeling like you were starting to thrive, and then to come crashing back to struggling to survive?

My healing has been a rollercoaster ride. To me it's a journey not a destination. I get to thriving and then go back down to victim and then to survivor. When I hit survivor I think "wow I'm doing good." And then I'm thriving and saying, "I didn't think it could get better than surviving." Then something triggers me and wham, I'm back at square one, victim. Though I rarely stay there for very long any more. It used to be a year or more in victim before moving on upward.

 

[UniqueSunflower]

While researching one topic I found this table which maps out how ones goes from a victim to a surviv...

I checked out the website connected to your post - looks like a good resource. Thank you!