This forum has shown so much light on my recent situation. And given me the only sense of clarity and hope that I've had in several days. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now. In 2012 he was deployed to Afghanistan for 10 months. I did not know him at the time. We met around 6 months after his term was officially over. I hadn't been in a relationship for over 3 yrs at the point that we met, but my prior relationship was awful and left me with lots of trust issues. He had been single for a significant amount of time, but had been in committed relationships years prior. He is hands down the greatest man I have ever known and treated me just the same. He has made me the happiest I have ever been over the past 2 years. In that time I can say its been pretty rare that he has had any episodes that I consider PTSD related. We've talked about his time in Afghanistan, I've seen pictures and even met his best friend whom he served with all 4 years. However, he has made mention to having a problem with "authority" and doesn't like having to answer to people. A year ago he finally had the opportunity to work for the company he'd been trying to get in with for years. Only thing was he would have to move to a different state 2 hours from home. The move seemed impossible at first, but we adjusted and 90% have been able to spend every weekend together. Now, back to him saying he doesn't like to have to answer to someone or "run things by someone." Because we only get 2 1/2 days a week together, when he came home on Fridays I always hoped we could spend as much time together as possible. So if he planned a night out with the guys without me, I would slighted and irritated. He never liked how I did that, and I know it wasn't right and would just apologize. This past week he texted me about going on a vacation with his friends to a popular singles location. I didn't take this well either, as my trust issues are still apparent even though I trust him. Imagining him in this certain environment kills me. He snapped saying he hates having to run something by someone when he's an adult. Which I know this goes right back to his issue with authority and constantly being told what to do with no choice throughout his service. Before I knew it everything spiraled. He said he was done with everything for now. He needed to focus more on his work before he got fired for coming home too much. He needs time for himself. My following texts went unanswered and I was completely confused. I gave it a few days and attempted with an email saying I needed to know that this was temporary and that he still loved me. He said yea I still love you, but I need to focus on me. I am blindsided and my heart is broken. It has not even been a week and I literally do not know how I can do this. I love him more than words can say. And until reading these posts could not understand how he could want to hurt someone he loved so much like this.
