He Doesn't Understand

[AdamAnt]

I'm gonna go make me a custom T-shirt that says...

"If you disagree with someone, walk a mile in their shoes. By the time they wake-up you'll be a mile away and they'll be barefoot!"

Good job mdewaken. Don't give in to pressure now. You just made a very healing move for your life, I'd bet on it!

 

["Not all of me shall die"]

I am sorry what happened to you in the past. No one, including yourself, has the right to tell you that you allowed it to happen because that simply is not true.

I am going to be frank, you need to pack your bags today and get out. Go to a friends, family, co-worker, hotel, or homeless shelter. You deserve better than what you are receiving, NO MATTER how good, kind or loving your partner is outside of this single incident. If I lived close enough I would let you stay at my place until you could get on your feet. Humble yourself and reach out to others in your life for help. You may not feel like there is anyone, but there always is at least one. If by some chance you can't identify or don't have the strength to go to them call 1−800−799−SAFE(7233) or visit http://www.thehotline.org. Be strong - I know you can do what is necessary to survive and overcome this.

 

[Elphaba]

Violence is not ok. Whether he understands or not.
I am sorry to hear about this, but I too think you have done the right thing by leaving. I hope you find support here and that you have a network around you than can help.

Wish you strength to get through this.

E

 

[Redtail]

As all the others have said, you do not need to be in that relationship. From a Law Enforcement aspect, the abuse will continue until you leave. He WILL continue and his violence WILL increase the longer you stay around him. You should seek out a protection order on him that prevents him from trying to contact you.

 

[anni]

Others have said everything, so will not reiterate. I just wished very much to add some support. I'm so glad you did leave, and of course he'll try to get you back. He'd just plain like to be able to continue the abuse. It's wonderful to hear you're not buying any of it.

Mine would tell me it was my fault he had to break my leg, too. I don't know if they actually believe this nonsense but we don't in the end. You did the right thing, but know that of course.

Do take care,

Anni

 

[Redtail]

Not that it is helpful to anyone but I some of my best feeling moments is when I get to take people like this to jail!!!

 

[raging bull]

Good on you kid, dont let his sniveling fool you into going back, he might have a dick but that don`t make him a man. NO man would ever treat a woman or child like that he is a pathetic excuse of a human, and you, well you are a beautiful person and deserve the best. You are in my prayers.