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Horrible neighbor triggers

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Renestel

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Hi everyone,

I haven't posted in a while here, been in serious therapy last two years and starting to trim down now which has been going really well. But in the last 4 months, I have three nearby rental neighbors that are triggering me to the point of feeling like I might be backtracking a bit now in my decent progress.
I have one neighbor who's dog would literally try to kill my dogs if the fence fell down, there is a small hole in the fence where it makes sure to scream and yell, gets absolutely violent to where even I flinch. I have tried her doorbell, no answer, left her a note finally that if she wouldn't take care of it I would be forced to call animal services. She confronted my husband while I was at work saying I "threatened her" and that's not okay. What?? plus, That dog hasn't been outside the backyard in 5 years. But that's probably not considered negligence sadly.
Other neighbors are dealing drugs in all hours of the night, my husband recently installed house cameras and the stuff Im seeing in front of our house is straight crazy. I've called the non emergency cops, they got busted, and the mom took the wrap for everything, even though there were 9 pipes outside and bags. yeah, one person can do that.... whatever.
Newest neighbor parks in front of our side of the street even though they have their part of the street to park in, throws trash in our yard, drips oil everywhere, and their friends even decided it would be fun to open their van door and have sex with the door open facing our house. we were out to dinner, checked our cameras because so much is going on, and came home and they just bounced like , meh, no big deal. This is ALL SO TRIGGERING to me. I was doing sooo well. and now when someone encroaches on my space, disrespects my property at any level, I am like in sniper mode right now. I never was in the service, but I did have to fight for my life several times. i am completely back there in adrenaline again. Does anyone have any personally experienced advice? I am falling apart where I was doing so good. It's definitely a personal bubble and safety thing, but anything deeper or things to try would be amazing. Thanks everyone. :smug:
 
Thank you for taking the time to respond. I also really appreciate that you can relate. I hope your situation works out too- it really can turn your world upside down. Affect your sleep, your tranquility, sense of safety.
If you feel like sharing your story, Im totally open to that. Maybe this thread could be doubled as answering my question but also everyone else can feel open to share their experiences too? Feel free, everyone.
 
I have had terrible problems with neighbors and did not know it was ptsd related. I could not handle anyone coming on my property at any time for any reason. Posted lots of signs. Planted large shrubs around perimeter. Anything to legally prevent people from trespassing. People threw trash on property. Neighbors were noisy, blocked driveway, stole things (even dug up plants and stole a bench). I have twice had my home stolen (fraud foreclosure) first time they stole my personal belongings also. I do not understand what makes people so mean to others. I keep to myself, mind my own business. But it is like our society has become filled with people who kick others when they are down. Makes me want my next place to be something with lots of land to keep neighbors at a distance. As people here celebrate Independence with fireworks, I want some place quiet, no fireworks. Don't know if there is such a place or if I will ever be able to afford such a place, but that is my hope.
 
@provencepearl -

Exactly! I am so sorry you feel this way too. I know through therapy work that it is a connection of people disrespecting your lawn, your space, or breaking in your house would connect to emotions or previous experiences with feeling taken advantage of, loss of safety, being taken advantage of mentally or physically in the past, at least for me, my house safety (and dogs inside) and my personal safety click so hard when it happens and I don't understand why Im just flying off the handle in anger or dedicating almost all night watching people to make sure they arent stealing, trashing or whatever else. But my therapist says its me finally defending myself and my family because I was too damaged in the past to do it. Like Im subconsciously making up for the pain. But I so agree. We are saving up for a cabin in the middle of nowhere. People can be so mean and as you said, up to take advantage of people.
 
Long story short...lady on first floor loves us one minute. Hates us the next screaming in me and my daughters face.

Lady above us stole some of my property (she's a new tenant) and screams at me accusing me of things I didn't do. Same as lady on first floor. They are joined at the hip.

Things escalated and lady on first floor spit on me. She was arrested and I have a one year order of protection.

We haven't been back, staying with my mom. I can't stomach going there. If I do need something I go around 11p.m.

Lease is up end of July... Will be moving!

Idiot landlord won't let me out of lease early.

So, I definitely feel for what you're going through.
 
Woah, @Heather :( so sorry to hear that. Glad to hear you got legal back up and you can at least find a new and better place without such chaos.
 
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