I am struggling with this again, but I am doing much better.Are you able to rest for a little while? When I get that way I try to have even a short nap - emotional tiredness is still tiredness and being kind to the part of you that's feeling it can help you come back more quickly.
Being seen, wondering if I am doing the right thing. Not being sure of where I am.Do you know what's triggered the fawn/freeze response?
I am only working one on one, but I am still scared. I want to make it to the next level. The thing is that I am doing some good work, despite the feelings.I hear you - I get that still sometimes, less than I used to but I can still be really hit if I don't look after myself when I feel overly visible. Part of my job involves training groups of people do the "being seen" thing can be hard going.
I did a bit of happy eating on Thursday. I didn't know how to manage the happiness - the feeling good.What has worked for me is firstly recognising that being seen is a trigger and then being very reassuring to that part of me (sometimes literally reassuring myself like I would a small child - it'll be ok, I know it's scary but you're really good at this, just a while longer, type messages). I'll also have a treat planned for after the "visible" thing, a nice coffee, cake, good book, movie whatever feels like a treat or feels nurturing.
Yeah that is for sure. I forget it sometimes.I know it's horrible but the freeze/fawn thing is just trying to keep you safe, so you need to be kind to yourself and reassure yourself that you are in fact safe. Try not to fight it, cos in my experience that makes it last longer and feel harder.