She has apologized. You have made a lot of valuable points though... the analogy also helps me understand better.I can understand your confusion and mixed feelings. You felt a real connection with your therapist and she must of felt the same connection with you. But that is where the problem lies, if she had any other feelings, other then professional SHE should of ended any kind of relationship, professional or friendship. As your therapist she would know your vulnerabilities and your trust in her. Because of that she took advantage of you. She made the phone call in the middle of the night, she invite you over to her home, she knew you are married and yet she takes no responsibility for her actions. Instead she projects them onto you and she still isn’t doing what is best for you. Because of that your confused and you have added stress on your marriage and I’m sure as long as you continue to see her, the more stress your marriage will have. At what point does she take responsibility? It doesn’t matter if she was drinking, drunk or blacked out ( which I think is bullsh*t because she took time, planning to get you there). A drunk driver is still responsible for driving impaired. You deserve to be treated with respect and valued. She has done none of them and you deserve better, so much better. She’s not a victim in anyway. She’s a professional that knows right from wrong, yes she’s human and makes mistakes but there are consequences to mistakes. Your feelings the consequences and learning from them. Why shouldn’t she?