I'm Starting To Get Paranoid

[Seeking_Nirvana]

I'm starting to get paranoid and I'm not trusting people and their motives. I wonder if I should stay out of the forum until this passes because I might offend someone.

Or maybe I should I stay in here and try to get past the paranoia and if someone is trying to trigger me I can learn to control myself?

Tammy

 

[cragger65]

I don't believe anyone here is intentionally trying to trigger you Tammy, though it might feel that way. Is there any instance in particular that has lit you off? Just wondering if working through that, as a working example, might help?

Whatever you decide is best for you, at least for the time being, is probably best.

 

[nic]

Hi Tammy,

I have had similar feelings recently, which is one reason why I haven't been posting much. The thing is, we don't know who is behind the computer unless we actually meet them. (This is also not always an advisable thing to do.)

I've only been on the forum since last winter, and already I have seen all types of personalities and people come through. Some I trust and have developed friendships with; there are others whom I haven't been too sure about. (Those of us who've been on for a while can all remember a few months back when we had someone lie about a serious incident in order to get attention.)

The thing is, you will never truly know "who" you're talking to. IMO, if a cyber-buddy is helping, then great. If they seem to hinder your healing, then stay away from them. Yes, there are those "fake" people out there who try to be "friends" when they have ill motives, but there are also those out there who care and want to give support.

 

[Deleted member 541]

I totally agree with Nic.....Just don't let the paranoia take control of you. Be logical, think things out, ground yourself, and take care.....

 

[Noone.]

I'm not a moderator but if you feel bad stay away, when your ready and feeling better come back, this is all about feeling better. See Ya

 

[midi]

Trust your gut instinct and go with it. Listen to your first feeling. Hope it works out...

 

[Grama-Herc]

Remember, we are all suppose to take a break from here once in a while. Constant exposure to this place can drive ya "nuts". Do what you feel is right!

 

[Seeking_Nirvana]

Thanks everyone. cragger - I don't think anyone here is intentionally trying to trigger me but the hypervigelence takes over some times.

I'm feeling better now and didn't let the fear take me places it usually does. I have really done good with putting fear in it's place in the last several months. I wondered which was worse for me the fear or anger?

This place isn't driving me nuts, it's the people I deal with in real time. In here I can log off and stay off. Some people in real time are unavoidable.

The holidays are disgusting and I wish they would ban them. But, I'm making it a point not to ruin it for my family this year.

Everyone in here is great because I share a common bond with them even though I may have never answered a post or vise versa. I'm thankful for having the people in this forum and thankful to Anthony and Nicolette for taking time to make this place safe.

Tammy

 

[Deleted member 541]

Tammy,

I'm glad that you are feeling better and that you kept the paranoia at bay.....Good work!!!!!

 

[Seeking_Nirvana]

Thanks for the encouragement. I did just realize that even though fear is not something I like, it's something I have to have for balance and safety.

I wanted to rid myself of it completely, but that wouldn't be wise even if I was able to. However, paranoia is really not needed because it's just fear over and above rational thinking.

It's nice to come in here and talk about these things when they arise even though they have been discussed a million times. I think getting validation and proper perspective is needed, and it shows me that I shouldn't go this alone and that asking for help doesn't make me weak.

Thanks
Tammy

 

[Deleted member 541]

Asking for help and seeking help is actually a sign of strength.....Not weakness.

 

[Seeking_Nirvana]

You're right, but it's that learned behavior/thinking kicking in. Old habits die hard!

I was trying to unlearn that behavior and some where along the line I thought that I shouldn't ask for help in here anymore so I could use my time helping others.

So anyway, ya I still need help. If I can't function I surely can't help anyone else out.

Thanks
Tammy