General Just Need To Talk About Stuff

[Glara]

So my sufferer is still in his dark place. We talk more on Facebook than privately, not sure what that means.

As I mentioned before, I don't really have friends to talk to.

Turning 50 came with mild health issues. Uterine fibroids that are cause bleeding, and meds aren't helping. Now my heart rate is too high, causing breathing to be difficult, and my BP is high. Starting new meds for that tomorrow. I'm on a new diet, need to lose 30 lbs.

I'm trying to care for myself and get these things under control. I'm also trying to get my home in order, deep cleaning, organizing closets and such. Just trying to make as many positive changes in my own life.

I've looked everywhere for classes to take, to try to meet new people. My town used to have a great recreation department. Unfortunately, it ended in political corruption a few years ago. My coworkers all have young children, so I'm having a hard time getting out and doing things. But I'm trying to control what I can.

I guess I'm just here tonight because I don't have anyone to talk to. Taking all the positive steps I can still doesn't keep me company. I still haven't figured out how to fix that, but until some solution comes along I'll fix other things in my life. Don't really know what else I can do.

 

[Sighs]

Hugs if you accept them!

 

[darrenS]

l live alone in a city and don't know many people at all - separated on the road to divorce , i do understand the feeling of loneliness and isolation , i keep active in my own space , i do whatever i can and employ whatever skill i can to simply keep active - it can be anything - keep your mind active in things that you enjoy - and yes come here as well , i come here for the same reasons , there are loads of good people here

 

[Glara]

I think I have to let go. I'm not sure what I believe about my sufferer. I have too many doubts, feel like I'm being played. I'm going to spend some time constructing an email letter to him this weekend. I'll try to chose what I say very carefully. I do believe his depression. I also believe I'm being played in spite of it. I just can't be in a long distance relationship with someone I don't talk to or text. I mean, really? What's the point?

Maybe with an ending I can move on. It started with me asking questions about what happened in our past. I should have left it there. I'm lonelier than when I started.

 

[Sighs]

I think you get to a point where you no longer care why he behaves the way he does. I did with my alcoholic ex. I knew there were reasons why he was an alcoholic. (Aren't there always reasons? Not excuses but reasons.) But eventually I realised that it didn't matter why he was the way he was. I just needed him not to be in my life because it was so toxic for me.

A long distance relationship where you don't talk or even text but just chat on FB from time to time... well, I wouldn't consider it much of a relationship but that's just me...

Hoping you can find some support and companionship and in time love closer to where you are!

 

[Wastinglight]

I think I have to let go. I'm not sure what I believe about my sufferer. I have too many doubts, feel like I'm being played. I'm going to spend some time constructing an email letter to him this weekend. I'll try to chose what I say very carefully. I do believe his depression. I also believe I'm being played in spite of it. I just can't be in a long distance relationship with someone I don't talk to or text. I mean, really? What's the point?

I totally get where you're at. I know this feeling very well. I have followed your story since you started posting. And my two cents? Yes, I think you are right to let go.

I got to the same point when my guy pushed me away. Yes, he did come back before I cut off contact with him completely, but before that happened, I did come to the realisation that I needed to let go of my attachment to him. I took him off the pedestal I had him on, and accepted that we might not be a good fit, no matter how strongly I felt about him.

And I came to that decision not because I thought he wasn't worth it, or that he wasn't a good person. It was because of what I was doing to myself. I was tearing myself apart, obsessing about our relationship. I was terrified that I was going to lose him. Eventually I realised I couldn't live like that.

I wish you all the best with whatever you decide. If you do decide to let go, you don't have to think of it as giving up on him. You're just doing what's right for you. Hugs.

 

[illusionist]

Hi Glara . I'm glad you have come to your decision...seems a very sensible one. It is very hard to meet people socially...I've been there. What I found helped take my mind off the loneliness was to go online and learn more on my favourite subject....social history. I would get so engrossed in things I enjoyed reading that the times I did have on my own were filled. Maybe you can join a forum on a particular subject you like or would like to learn about....meet people, or at least converse that way. I joined a dating site and met my partner from a forum on there....as always, keep your wits about you if you do this.