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My Ex Husband Tried To Murder Me.

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On August 19, 2009 my then estranged husband attempted to take my life. This also happened to have been our 3rd wedding anniversary. I had told him days before that I wanted to get our divorce wrapped up. I was done with the verbal and emotional abuse. The control he had over my life.

He showed up at my house uninvited and walked in carrying a box that I could see had pictures of us and our wedding album. As he dropped the box it made a loud noise. I said that was not necessary as our two young boys ages 1 and almost 2 where strapped in their high chairs waiting for dinner. After I said that was not necessary he stood up and began to strangle me. Instantly my babies started to scream and cry as they new something was very wrong. I remember staring in their eyes thinking I will never hold them again. He then while still strangling me slammed the right side of my head into the wall 3 times. He then got me on the ground all while still strangling me. This whole time he keeps repeating tonight is the night you are going to die. He started to fumble in the box he brought over and while he is still strangling me with his left hand in his right hand I see a 3 in metal mallet. I was sure that I was going to die that night. I remember the first two blows to my head and then everything went black. I did come to at one point for a brief moment and somehow we were on the other side of the kitchen. My babies are still crying and screaming.

When he believed that I was dead he used my cell phone ( he knew my mom wouldn't answer his ) and told my mom he had just killed her daughter in the kitchen. At some point during this he took the time to smoke a cigarette and in the evidence pictures there is a butt in the sink next to the mallet. He then walked out the door. After he was far enough away he called 911 and said you better get there as quick as you can I just killed my wife and the babies are there alone.

I suffered a decompressed skull fracture on my forehead, a fracture to me left temperal lobe, my left ear was missing a piece and it was almost torn off by the force of his blows. I did need to have some of it amputated. I also suffered a fractured had and a subarachnoid brain hemorhage.

This was seventeen months ago and I am still recovering. I have severe panic and anxiety attacks. My body is always at a state of hyper alert. It's endless. He has dragged this through the court system by firing 6 public defenders several cancelled trials at the last minute due to him. He finally plead no contes the week befor the last trial was set. He is being sentenced on Monday and is facing a max of 40yrs for 1st degree intentional attempted homicide.

It scares the crap out of me that the safety for myself and my children are dependent on one person. Thankfully the Criminal Judge is the same Judge we had for our divorce so she knows what a manipulator he is. God please let this Judge send a strong message that domestic violence will not be tollerated anymore and give him the full sentence.
 
Oh my goodness that is absolutely horrifying. I'm so glad you're recovering and that he's going to be sentenced finally. I hope you are in a place where you feel safe and supported by family and friends. There are a lot of really wonderful and helpful people here and you'll find a lot of support and advice.
 
Hi Juliex,

Welcome to the forum. I am so sorry that you had to experience such violence and hope that you receive justice in the sentencing phase.

Take Care
Debbie
 
God please let this Judge send a strong message that domestic violence will not be tollerated anymore and give him the full sentence.
Yes yes Juliex. I am so glad you're here. Welcome. One of my abusers was my exhusband. I hope that your ex gets the full extent of the law.
 
Welcome to the forum Julie,

It's a horrifying story and must have been dreadful for you to write. Courts are indeed flukey but you'll find several of us here who have had them vindicate our horrors through sentencing, gave us some sort of peace knowing we were heard and allowed saftey then.

Do take care,

Anni
 
Welcome to the forum, Julie. What a horrific time you've been through... I feel for you, and I can relate. My ex stabbed me 25 times after telling me he was going to "kill you and then kill myself" in the middle of a public street. I'm suffering very similar fears and anxieties, still recovering physically, and still being dragged through all of the court drama. He hasn't even entered a plea yet, and it's over a year ago that it happened.

I wish the very best for you and your children.
 
Welcome to the forum Julie. My biological dad beat up my mum when I was 2 and tried to drown her. She ended up in hospital for 3 weeks and he went to jail for 1 1/2 years. She had boiling hot water poured on her. She has scars down her legs still. I feel for my mum a lot about these things.She didn't deserve this, and he has lost his family.

I hope that your ex goes to jail, and you can find some peace which is something you deserve.
 
Welcome Julie. I am so sorry for all that you had to endure. You have fought a major battle so far and my prayers are with you that you will see justice. You can be so proud of yourself for the fact that you have survived it. I totally validate your fears and it will hopefully ease after his sentencing. I just got the threats and the beatings, but you had the trauma of living threat. I hope that your children will be okay as they were young. We are here for you and yours.
 
Thank you all for the words of encouragment! As each day gets closer the anxiety is almost unbearable. He has continued to re-victimize me with every firing of Public Defenders and each cancellation of the trial. I only hope and pray he will get his when he is in prison. He had me a prisioner in my own life for 7 years, I guess this is what they call karma. God bless you all!!
 
I wish this were unfamiliar but it's not- these men employ the same furtive, power games through our court system with abysmal regularity-hoping for what? The 'good' thing with these types is they end up frustrating the powers-that-be and enter court with even more strikes against them. They ridiculously ( but fortunately ) pit their perceived power against those with genuine power and discover whose is real! He thinks he is merely revictimizing you and of course he is, but in the process is shooting himself in the foot with the patience of the court system. It could pay off for you in the end.

Do hold on, as you said, karma tends to have a vast appetite for justice in the end. Take care, for you and the 4x rugrats. :)

Anni
 
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