My Granddaughter Was Lying To Me The Truth Came Out.

[The Albatross]

Oops... I think I posted all that on the wrong thread, I thought I was on your diary. Hope that's okay though Giz.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

thank you so much everyone. I am very concerned about the girls being in that home with my daughter and her violent boyfriend. I am now cut off from them and my daughter feels betrayed because I made a police report and was talking about things with my grandaughter behind her back or that is her twisted take on the situation.

Thank you so much all of you for your support at this time because I feel so helpless and powerless right now.

 

[ms spock]

:hug: @gizmo

 

[scout86]

I feel so helpless and powerless right now.

Too a point, you are, and that's unfortunate. But you've also shown ALL of them that you are willing to stand up and speak the truth as you know it rather than pretend, make excuses, and sweep stuff under the rug. You never know, at some point down the road, even your daughter could come to see that as something she values. Maybe not too, but all you can do is the best you know how and it sounds like that's exactly what you did.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Thank you so much. I really am appreciating all of the collected wisdom here. I am doing some distraction before I feel brave enough to go out and replace my dvd player and arrange to have it installed because it quit working this morning. I guess I used it all up. I am working on self care and distractions right now so I do not dwell on the negatives in my grandchildrens lives. I am trying. Your encouragement means so much to me at this time. I realize it is going to be a rocky few weeks ahead of me and my family. I did my best and I was scared to do this. Knowing and realizing the truth really helps me so much.

I do not know what the outcome will be and I do not live well in a vacumn so I am keeping on with keeping on and really hope that some real good eventually comes out of this one.

 

[illusionist]

My thoughts are with you gizmo.....feel so much admiration for you.

Take special care of yourself.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Thank you so much. I just feel so scared for my granddaughter right now. Her mom is so wrapped up in herself now and on a huge power over me trip that I am reeling.

I can stand this pain.

 

[illusionist]

I will pm you.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Please do, and thank you so much.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Some truths have come to light. My granddaughter did play and lie to me and she does have a lot of valid reasons seeing it from her side to be troubled at this time.

I have talked to her girlfriend and both of them concocted this story. She does have so much stability and child abuse from her stepdad that she needs help recovering from. My daughter has been taking her to therapy and she is on medication.

I had contact with my daughter and I see the role I played. I think that i did the right thing calling the police based on the information I had at the time.

I have so much to learn. i cannot wait to go back to therapy to get help changing me to become a better person. i see my daughters side and I see the part I played and the part my granddaughter played along with her girlfriend who is a very bad influence on her.

She is he one who talked my granddaughter into smoking pot and taking mushrooms. Thank you all for all of your wisdom and support but I have to be honest and say there is way more to this story than I knew previously. I did follow my conscience and calling the police made my daughters girlfriend very angry at me and their plans were exposed. I am learning a painful and costly lesson.

From now I will stick to the facts of any situation before I get involved.

An abusive stepdad for eight years. two loser boyfriends, a divorce and loss of stability at home and all of her friends, repeating the ninth grade etc all are supper traumatic on a teenage girl. I have given this a lot of thought and realize there still are problems with my daughter. I want to have contact with the girls so I can be a source of stability for them.

But I see my part in getting into the middle and keeping secrets which is never good. I do not feel like a good person at all but a 2 faced person. I am so sorry to all of you.

 

[scout86]

I do not feel like a good person at all but a 2 faced person. I am so sorry to all of you.

I was with you, right up to there.

Stick with "a grandma doing the best she knew how to do at the time". No need to apologize for that. Gaining insights that you can use to improve the future is a positive part of life. Sometimes we make mistakes along the way. All of us! Doesn't make anyone a "bad person:", just human.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Thank you so much @scout86 because what you say is true. I really needed to focus on this one and so I really appreciate your common sense response very much.I am going to focus on what you said to me. Thank you so much for defining the situation in a manner which is real and true.