If your mother has narcissistic personality disorder, she may not be capable of "loving" someone based on the conventional definition. A person with that disorder can "love" someone based on how that person reflects back on THEM, makes THEM feel about themselves, etc. That version of "love" isn't really about the other person at all. It's also not really a choice. It's the nature of that particular disorder.I asked my T if my mother loved me.