How can a person say "move on", you agree with them and then you become the bad guy? (OMG :mad: )
How is it that a person can say that they deserve more because they're so awesome, but then turn around and tell the person they want to be away from, "I love you...I'm always here for you...I want you in my life forever?" (WTF :mad: ) IN THE SAME CONVERSATION!!
How can a person talk in circles for hours and not get anything resolved? (sigh :confused: )
I mean, I know it's not easy when a person isn't thinking clearly. I get it. I have a mental disorder as well and when I'm not medicated I can be discombobulated in the mind too. But, being stable let's me see things very clearly. It's frustrating to be in AGREEMENT with someone and still end up arguing. Like...just typing that let's me see how little sense that actually makes.
I said, "fine...I am moving on. I want a full time, healthy relationship with someone who knows they want to be with me and isn't unsure." Then I get, "I'm always here for you, I love you...always know that." WTF! Who says that when they want someone to leave? It's already hard enough to walk away, I've reduced contact as well. And hearing that doesn't make me swoon...it makes me angry because I feel like it's manipulative.
Does anyone have any experience with this type of behavior? Sufferer or supporter? I'm not sad or depressed about moving on. I have my moments, but such is life. It's not unusual for me to stay friends or at least cordial with people I've dated but with this sort of stuff I don't know that it's healthy for me to do so...at least not now.
I'm so confused. I mean, I'm not confused about what I want/need from a relationship or partner. I'm confused on the behavior. That's confusing to me and I wish I didn't have the urge to try to understand it. Sometimes I wish I had more sociopathic tendencies so I could just shrug it off and go on about my business. Lol.
That felt a lot better to get out. Thanks for listening.
How is it that a person can say that they deserve more because they're so awesome, but then turn around and tell the person they want to be away from, "I love you...I'm always here for you...I want you in my life forever?" (WTF :mad: ) IN THE SAME CONVERSATION!!
How can a person talk in circles for hours and not get anything resolved? (sigh :confused: )
I mean, I know it's not easy when a person isn't thinking clearly. I get it. I have a mental disorder as well and when I'm not medicated I can be discombobulated in the mind too. But, being stable let's me see things very clearly. It's frustrating to be in AGREEMENT with someone and still end up arguing. Like...just typing that let's me see how little sense that actually makes.
I said, "fine...I am moving on. I want a full time, healthy relationship with someone who knows they want to be with me and isn't unsure." Then I get, "I'm always here for you, I love you...always know that." WTF! Who says that when they want someone to leave? It's already hard enough to walk away, I've reduced contact as well. And hearing that doesn't make me swoon...it makes me angry because I feel like it's manipulative.
Does anyone have any experience with this type of behavior? Sufferer or supporter? I'm not sad or depressed about moving on. I have my moments, but such is life. It's not unusual for me to stay friends or at least cordial with people I've dated but with this sort of stuff I don't know that it's healthy for me to do so...at least not now.
I'm so confused. I mean, I'm not confused about what I want/need from a relationship or partner. I'm confused on the behavior. That's confusing to me and I wish I didn't have the urge to try to understand it. Sometimes I wish I had more sociopathic tendencies so I could just shrug it off and go on about my business. Lol.
That felt a lot better to get out. Thanks for listening.
