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Please Remind Me I Will Get Through This

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I have several friends who are rotating taking turns staying with me or checking in on me. It's actually huge for me to reach out like I did last week and they offered to do this, and I actually accepted.

Tonight I am alone, but I have 5 friends who know I just got back from treatment and had a huge loss come up during the worst time and they have all been so supportive. They keep telling me they came stay, and that I can call them in the middle of the night too. I never do, but I'm getting there...
 
They keep telling me they came stay, and that I can call them in the middle of the night too. I never do, but I'm getting there...
The first time you call will be the hardest. Try and remember that they are probably the sorts of people that are happier being able to do something, even if it's just crashing on your couch, rather than worrying. When you call on them, you are doing them a favor. It sounds like they understand this is crisis, and with five options, you can spread it around so you don't burn anyone out.
 
that I can call them in the middle of the night too. I never do, but I'm getting there
I am glad you have that. I have a friend who has offered this, and I have never taken her up on it, but knowing the option is there comforts me.

It sounds like you are doing a great job accepting help. It's not easy to do when you are at your most vulnerable, but the experience of reaching out from that place and being accepted is healing in itself. I agree with @joeylittle, friends who would offer to help will be happier being able to do something than worrying knowing you are in crisis but not letting them help.
 
I was dropped by my old T just over 2 months ago, I remember it all so clearly and balling my eyes out thinking how am I going to survive. I had a new T chosen for me by my old T and I am now so grateful as my new T is sooo amazing! I still miss my old T but the new T I have I know I will be able to make a lot more progress with.
I know it hurts soooo much at the beginning but if you can take each day as it comes or even each hour it will get easier.
Wishing you the best of luck with finding an amazing new
take care
 
It sounds like you are doing everything right -- reaching out for support and being very open about what you are going through. I know you will be fine, but I also know how difficult this must be and how flat-out wrong it is that you should have to go through this - for that I am sorry. Your therapist sounds quite terrible, to be honest, and you definitely didn't deserve to be treated that way. She has wronged you, though don't take it personally - she probably has her own reasons for behaving so unprofessionally. Try to rely on your dog and your friends as much as you can and stay as positive as you can. Don't focus on all your problems or the difficult road ahead of you, focus on the good things you have -- the warmth your dog gives you, the support you get from friends. And, if it gets really bad, there's nothing wrong with sleeping it off, just staying in bed for a while to weather the storm.
 
I want to scream on your behalf. They shouldn't be allowed to do that. I have gone through a similar situation recently, only I hadn't seen this therapist for long. It really screws with you pretty bad.
 
I took the Valium last night. Now I feel like I can't stop taking it. The prescription was for up to 3 a day. I've already taken 5 in 12 hours and I am trying to stop myself but I want to take more of it more than I want to breathe.

This seems like a very bad thing. I don't know what to do.
 
Are you still alone? First thing is, don't be. You need someone to actually be with you who can see the state you are in and help you get the help you need, because the way you are describing it, it is going to be hard to do on your own. It's time to call one of those friends who offered help.
 
This is absolutely unethical behavior. If you are able, or if your friend might be able to help, I'd encourage you to find out if your T is a member of APA since you're in the US. Link Removed

The principles apply here too: Beneficence and Nonmaleficence and Fidelity and Responsibility.

These are the codes that your T's behavior completely goes against:

2.02 Providing Services in Emergencies
In emergencies, when psychologists provide services to individuals for whom other mental health services are not available and for which psychologists have not obtained the necessary training, psychologists may provide such services in order to ensure that services are not denied. The services are discontinued as soon as the emergency has ended or appropriate services are available. (My comment: You are clearly in an emergency, and your T claims to specialize in trauma. Unless you literally threatened her in some way, she is ethically obligated to get you into the care of another provider.)

3.04 Avoiding Harm
Psychologists take reasonable steps to avoid harming their clients/patients, students, supervisees, research participants, organizational clients and others with whom they work, and to minimize harm where it is foreseeable and unavoidable. (My comment: After returning from a treatment center, you are clearly at more risk, and the T has responsibility to avoid harming you during this time.)

3.09 Cooperation with Other Professionals
When indicated and professionally appropriate, psychologists cooperate with other professionals in order to serve their clients/patients effectively and appropriately. (My comment: your ex-T is supposed to cooperate with the other people that you are trying to see. She should also have the basic understanding of "WHEN" therapy begins--as that did not happen with you and the other provider, your ex-T should not have dropped you.)

3.12 Interruption of Psychological Services
Unless otherwise covered by contract, psychologists make reasonable efforts to plan for facilitating services in the event that psychological services are interrupted by factors such as the psychologist's illness, death, unavailability, relocation or retirement or by the client's/patient's relocation or financial limitations. (My comment: again, to bluntly end therapy like this (unless you posed a reasonable threat to her) is unethical.)

10.09 Interruption of Therapy
When entering into employment or contractual relationships, psychologists make reasonable efforts to provide for orderly and appropriate resolution of responsibility for client/patient care in the event that the employment or contractual relationship ends, with paramount consideration given to the welfare of the client/patient.

10.10 Terminating Therapy
(a) Psychologists terminate therapy when it becomes reasonably clear that the client/patient no longer needs the service, is not likely to benefit, or is being harmed by continued service. (My comment: Does not seem to apply to your situation)

(b) Psychologists may terminate therapy when threatened or otherwise endangered by the client/patient or another person with whom the client/patient has a relationship. (My comment: I doubt that you threatened or endangered your T.)

(c) Except where precluded by the actions of clients/patients or third-party payers, prior to termination psychologists provide pretermination counseling and suggest alternative service providers as appropriate.
 
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