General Should I Stay Or Go? Boyfriend With PTSD Has Been Lying To Me

[pebbels]

Hi again Elizabeth,:hello:
I just wanted to say that i feel your pain, I to put my everything into my relationship with my ex who has ptsd and lost myself whilst doing so because of the walking on egg shells and being careful also been blamed ect, the list goes on.

This is why i come across to other carers as maybe been a bit harsh but i know what that feeling is like and i also felt depressed(again a feeling i did not like) i thought i had let him down but also the behaviour, confusion and frustration and of course the back and forth senarios that get played out didn't help.

With what i know now since coming here and listening to both ptsders and carers things would have been handled differently. BUT having said that it takes TWO to make and maintain a relationship to work regardless of what has happened.

All the best elizabeth:Hug_emoticon:Take care of YOU:smile:

Pebs

 

[Auburngirl]

Elizabeth, take care and move out and on. Being by yourself is infinitely better than being in a bad relationship. I know it can feel like you've invested so much in this person and this relationship, but honestly abuse is not something that's negotiable. You are harming yourself and it's not unlike continuing to live in a building with asbestos. You may think you're handling it, but it is damaging you.

And you're 26, and you have lots of wonderful things waiting for you in the future. Go out and find them! Also, probably not a bad idea to come up with a plan of self care for yourself. You are worth it.

 

[concerned911]

Hi Elizabeth. I am new to this forum and stumbled across your post and this forum when searching for PTSD and abusive relationships. I am going through the very same thing, it seems.

I met a wonderful man eight months ago, fell head over heals in love with him, we blended our families together and have been living together for the past six months. There were a few red flags along the way, but just over the past week he is a completely different person than the one I have known for the past eight months. He is completely irrational, blames me for all his behavior, and is now refusing to leave my house which he has been living in rent free. I have paid all the bills and have supported him and his kids through a tough time for him (health issues, surgeries, etc.) I am so completely caught off guard by his behavior, as this is not the person I fell in love with. I am feeling very trapped and lost at this point as well, and I am also six months pregnant with his child. Sharing a child for 18 years with someone who is capable of causing so much pain is very scary for me.

I've decided I can no longer be in a romantic relationship with him, and we both decided that type of relationship was over after his last outburst (all my fault of course,) but now I'm trying to figure out how to get out and not make things worse. My friends and family are very supportive, but are concerned because I am making excuses for him and for some reason am having a really tough time making a real break. I suppose him refusing to leave doesn't exactly make it easier, but that too could just be another excuse. Anyway, I just wanted to let you know you are not alone!!!! I wish you the best!!

 

[Nicolette]

Hi Elizabeth. Sounds like you are in a bit of a pickle. I look forward to talking to you in the future.