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Hi all,
I'm wondering if anyone else is taking an approach similar to mine.
I am currently seeing my therapist every other week, and my pastor on the weeks that I'm not seeing my therapist. They have my permission to speak with one another, per my pastor's request as she isn't qualified to handle deeper issues and if something more serious should arise, she wants my permission to contact my therapist. It also helps them to be on the same page in terms of my healing.
Both of them are in agreement that my therapist works on removing the "bad" trauma aspects while my pastor works on adding the "good" in terms of spirituality. (There is a story in the bible about this, something about vanquishing demons from a house, the house being empty, yadda yadda yadda, and needing to fill it with good. Sorry, although I was raised in the church, I'm not up on my bible stories after being gone for almost 20 years!) My pastor says that if you don't fill your life with the "good" then its much easier for the "bad" to come creeping back in. I tend to agree with this approach, and so far it has served me well.
This is a new approach to me, for the most part. Yes, most therapists will advise doing positive things in your life, but this approach is a bit different, in that both aspects are equally important. For me, at least, in the past, therapy and healing has been mostly about removing the bad and not so much about adding the good. In the sense that, for example, even doing something like correcting faulty thinking via CBT is done simply to fix something bad, not done in the sense that its something good for the sake of something good. KWIM? (I hope I'm being clear!)
And even if you're not religious or spiritual, perhaps you can identify with this approach as well, in that you're doing other things to fill the "void" left by the "absence" of trauma. (Yes, I say absence in that for many of us, for so long, our lives have revolved around trauma, so when the symptoms disappear, we are left with, well, to be frank, a whole lot more time on our hands!)
Thanks!
I'm wondering if anyone else is taking an approach similar to mine.
I am currently seeing my therapist every other week, and my pastor on the weeks that I'm not seeing my therapist. They have my permission to speak with one another, per my pastor's request as she isn't qualified to handle deeper issues and if something more serious should arise, she wants my permission to contact my therapist. It also helps them to be on the same page in terms of my healing.
Both of them are in agreement that my therapist works on removing the "bad" trauma aspects while my pastor works on adding the "good" in terms of spirituality. (There is a story in the bible about this, something about vanquishing demons from a house, the house being empty, yadda yadda yadda, and needing to fill it with good. Sorry, although I was raised in the church, I'm not up on my bible stories after being gone for almost 20 years!) My pastor says that if you don't fill your life with the "good" then its much easier for the "bad" to come creeping back in. I tend to agree with this approach, and so far it has served me well.
This is a new approach to me, for the most part. Yes, most therapists will advise doing positive things in your life, but this approach is a bit different, in that both aspects are equally important. For me, at least, in the past, therapy and healing has been mostly about removing the bad and not so much about adding the good. In the sense that, for example, even doing something like correcting faulty thinking via CBT is done simply to fix something bad, not done in the sense that its something good for the sake of something good. KWIM? (I hope I'm being clear!)
And even if you're not religious or spiritual, perhaps you can identify with this approach as well, in that you're doing other things to fill the "void" left by the "absence" of trauma. (Yes, I say absence in that for many of us, for so long, our lives have revolved around trauma, so when the symptoms disappear, we are left with, well, to be frank, a whole lot more time on our hands!)
Thanks!
