The green-eyed monster.

[bellbird]

I think that I felt so badly about myself was the root of it.

I think I'm definitely in a similar position.

then I roll my sleeves up and endeavor to either act or accept... and in the process of either one my attitude changes.

Oh this is a really good way to look at it. Thank you for sharing.

 

[MyWillow]

My psydoc encourages me to accept all my feelings without judgement - fear, anger whatever. Although I haven’t talked about jealousy I’m sure it’s a thing. Also in this day and age of social media it’s important to realise that what you see is not the whole truth. Facing up to the truth of your history takes a huge amount of courage.

 

[bellbird]

My psydoc encourages me to accept all my feelings without judgement - fear, anger whatever. Although I haven’t talked about jealousy I’m sure it’s a thing. Also in this day and age of social media it’s important to realise that what you see is not the whole truth. Facing up to the truth of your history takes a huge amount of courage.

Huh. True -- I've been encouraged to sit with "difficult" feelings in the past; to see them for what they are, but had never thought about doing that with jealousy.
re the social media thing, that's also very true. I've basically phased out all facebook usage; the only reason I have the app still is because I do use messenger since not everyone on there has whatsapp/something else. And I think from memory, you have to have the facebook app installed to use messenger. which is poop.

Thanks so much to everyone who has contributed to this thread so far; it's very helpful to hear the suggestions/ideas of different people

 

[mamachick]

Jealousy is a normal emotion. Its what you do with the jealousy. The grass is not always greener on the other side as others have pointed out, but even if it was, maybe you have a different purpose in life. If you hold on to the jealousy it will eat you up. Allowing yourself to feel all feelings that come up, and talking about them with others and not labeling them as good or bad can lead to accepting them. None of us can have it all. I think we all have to ask ourselves "is doing what we do getting us what we want" and it may be that it's not. On the other hand, it may be that we have made choices consistent with our priorities. I had kids early and postponed education. I got my masters when kids were early teens. It would not have paid me to work after daycare but I wanted to be a stay at home mom anyway while they were young. Sometimes I envied friends that had these great careers and had more income, but I quickly reconsidered when I was at the pool with my kids in the summer and their kids were at daycare.

You are not a bad person for feeling jealous. You are human.

 

[bellbird]

Jealousy is a normal emotion. Its what you do with the jealousy. The grass is not always greener on the other side as others have pointed out, but even if it was, maybe you have a different purpose in life. If you hold on to the jealousy it will eat you up. Allowing yourself to feel all feelings that come up, and talking about them with others and not labeling them as good or bad can lead to accepting them. None of us can have it all. I think we all have to ask ourselves "is doing what we do getting us what we want" and it may be that it's not. On the other hand, it may be that we have made choices consistent with our priorities. I had kids early and postponed education. I got my masters when kids were early teens. It would not have paid me to work after daycare but I wanted to be a stay at home mom anyway while they were young. Sometimes I envied friends that had these great careers and had more income, but I quickly reconsidered when I was at the pool with my kids in the summer and their kids were at daycare.

You are not a bad person for feeling jealous. You are human.

I'm very late to respond, but it turns out this is exactly what I needed to hear today.
Thank you, @brat17 :)