The mistakes we make with boundaries

[DharmaGirl]

No, it's a physical thing where the neurons in your brain mirror the neurons in someone else's brain, then you have the feelings. I'll try to find the article.

Ok, here is a long one that explains it, but it doesn't get to what I was talking about until the end.

Mirror neurons: Enigma of the metaphysical modular brain

 

[Teasel]

Another thing I think I make mistakes with is what is ok to ask of others. That's to do with boundaries isn't it.

I know I grew up with it not being safe to express needs and wants and that makes asking for what I want or need a bit frightening.

And I suspect I get things wrong about what is appropriate to share or not too.

Feels uncomfortable writing this. A bit of shame too.
I think also I'm a bit clueless about what is ok to expect from others / get or wrong or something.

 

[scout86]

I read this yesterday and thought it was pretty good. A lot of times, I find the thoughts of an "apparently normal person" to be a useful perspective.

article

 

[Rani G2]

And I suspect I get things wrong about what is appropriate to share or not too.

I find this difficult too... I keep most doors locked fearing leakage..How much disclosure is healthy? How much is Invasive? How much transparency is acceptable for me without others trying to cross the line.

 

[Teasel]

Really helpful thanks @scout86
Bookmarked. Maybe I'll look up some books too.