Would you choose to not have trauma?

[Teddie]

Would you choose to not have trauma if you could?

I’m not entirely sure myself. I like who I am and I feel I wouldn’t be the same person if I didn’t have those experiences; even if I do have a lot of shame, regret, self-pity, etc.

I do sometimes wonder what kind of person I would have been. Would I be happier as that person? Would I have a better or worse attitude towards adversity?

 

[Dave Ryan]

Definitely. Back when I was a teenager, I made a decision that avoided short-term stress, but led to life-long issues. I deeply wish I had had the strength to report what was going on. It would have been hard to do so, but it would have nipped things in the bud.

 

[deno]

That’s a tough question. I know my trauma shaped me, but I also wonder—if I hadn’t been put through all of it, would I still be strong? Or would I have never needed to be? Do you think we’d still have resilience if we never had to fight for it?

 

[somerandomguy]

If I could push a button and have what happened to me be instantly erased forever ... I would push the button in less than a heartbeat. I would literally run over little old ladies to push the button.

But since that's not going to happen, I'm making the best out of what I have.

 

[shimmerz]

Would you choose to not have trauma if you could?

That's a hard Yes.

 

[arfie]

would i choose trauma?
no. that sounds downright masochistic to me.

would i rewrite my past?
no again. i like me, just the way i am, scars and all.

 

[Lost in the Woods]

But if I did that I would only have myself to blame for being such a loser.

 

[Jade-]

Of course I would choose to not have trauma.

Being sexually abused for the first 18 years of my life along with every other act of abuse and every other trauma sure haven't encriched my life in any way or made things easy for me. Life is a struggle and always will be because of my traumas.

 

[Movingforward10]

I would absolutely prefer not to have had my trauma. Perhaps I would have picked a different career? Perhaps I would have done better at school and achieved more? Perhaps I would have had an innate sense of myself that meant I made different decisions about my life?

I will never know.

What I do know is that it did happen. It did shape me and my life. Do I like me? Am I proud of me? Do I like my life? Yes to all of those.
.do I think my trauma held me back? Do I think I made some bad decisions because of my trauma? Do I think my trauma impacts my life and is a hurdle to overcome and battle? Yes to all of those. But, I have also made a lot of peace with it all now and the battles and hurdles are less, and my decisions in life are now much better.

It's made me me. And I'm alright.

 

[Anita]

Would you choose to not have trauma if you could?

I’m not entirely sure myself. I like who I am and I feel I wouldn’t be the same person if I didn’t have those experiences; even if I do have a lot of shame, regret, self-pity, etc.

I do sometimes wonder what kind of person I would have been. Would I be happier as that person? Would I have a better or worse attitude towards adversity?

Yes. Thanks to my f**king parents for having me, my father asked my mother if she wanted kids, she said yes , yet , she did nothing as a mother to nurture, love….
My father same shit, he just should of shut the hell up and see the woman she is and not have any.

 

[Anita]

Yes. Thanks to my f**king parents for having me, my father asked my mother if she wanted kids, she said yes , yet , she did nothing as a mother to nurture, love….
My father same shit, he just should have shut the hell up and see the woman she is and not have any.

It’s an open wound for your whole life when you have a real painful dysfunctional family and the wound may heal but the scares remain forever, no therapy, medication will cure it.

 

[Rose White]

I don’t know how I could not have had the trauma since it was such a clusterf*ck of how my parents were, personality-wise, and generational trauma. I would be wishing for my parents to have been healed and their parents to have been healed and all the way down. Basically an enormous fantasy. Is like I wouldn’t exist without trauma. Which is probably why by I feel like such a f*cking stain so often. But hey, Buddha said the essence of life is suffering so got that down . Also if my dad didn’t csa then I would just feel like a f*cking loser for no reason because I wouldn’t have understood that his spankings were beatings and that he was emotionally abusive—basically I wouldn’t have understood that he was a bad man without the csa reason.