Classmate Don't Have A Chance

[PTSDfree]

Ok this has been going on for quite a few months this girl two years older than me started talking to me right after I started my new school and the girl started making sexual advances within only three days of knowing her and she told me about her blood fetish and telling kids at school if I died then she wouldn't have anyone to sleep with even though I never thought about f*ckin her but she thinks I'm some sort of walking f*cktoy.

She is very fat and the same height as me, has a lot of acne, eats a large dominos pizza for her second lunch, stuff like that..

. Thinkin of her doesn't give me the hots if anything it reminds me of that aqua teen hunger force clip and shake asks if he is fat and meatball says yeah i would stop eating. :yuck:

SO yeah she is grossing me out even more, it makes my anxiety really fukd and that's coming from someone who changed her username to ptsdfree! :nailbiting:

I have to school loaded on scripts a lot of days cuz she's such a pain in the ass. :(

And then she had some dramatic "breakup" with me a few months ago cuz I still wouldn't have sex with her at school vacation (she had a private cabin and thought it was a good opportunity) but I never agreed to a relationship in the first place and said NO!!!

I was off on my own and having lots of fun hiking in the mountains! If anything pussy looks like a sarcastic fringehead (the fish) with its mouth open. :angelic:

But this all happened MONTHS AGO and she's STILL mad about how I wouldn't have sex with her she goes around and tells my thirteen y/o friend with the attention span of a retarded squirrel and tells him I'm "emotionally unavailable" and yells at my tofu and doesn't like donald trump (the man who has made america freer than ever) doesn't like bob dylan and the dead she says it's gross cuz she's tryna look like a better person. She got pissy @ me too because I wouldn't share my cellphone password with her it's 420000 she doesn't need to know that. :locktopic:

I told the staff members at my school and they said if she does it again report her and I have so I'm looking forward to how that goes but she has tendencies towards violence she got kicked out of her last school cuz she attacked her classmates that picked on her and the police were called. :wideeyed:Hoping she won't pull that shit on mee. man I wish she would just leave.

Oh and she hasn't done her chore for three chore days cuz she said that she would prefer gettin reported instead. I even googled her full name and found her on a "vampire dating site" and posting about wantin to drink blood in [my state] wut? That's just asking for AIDS and hepatitis and whatever else IV druggos get. Not to mention it's stupid to have your full name on a hookup site. Stupid hoe.

:stop: Fortunately NOBODY really gets along w/ her especially the teenagers. I'm gonna tell the older kids on our next school vacation / truth or dare bonfire.... They will get a kick out of that cuz last time my retard 18 y/o classmate was talkin about how nitrous oxide was a nice opiate like high (dummmmmmy). She don't know how much I can f*ck someone up!

 

[joeylittle]

@PTSDfree - is there a point to your post?

I ask because I needed to read it closely enough to put paragraph breaks in - please try and do that in future - and all I read is a lot of blaming this other girl for your own reactions. And you are going to get back at her by talking shit about her.

What do you want here? Validation?

have to school loaded on scripts a lot of days cuz she's such a pain in the ass. :(

Bullshit. You control your own anxiety. If she's affecting you that much, work on your reaction.

 

[PTSDfree]

@PTSDfree - is there a point to your post?

I ask because I needed to read it clo...

The same could be said about the vast majority of posts here regarding work/education issues!! Just wonderin how to manage this cuz its not gonna get much better. And what she is doing is ILLEGAL and she physically threatens people and she's been still mad for months because I wouldn't have sex with her. Her mental health issues do not rationalize her bad behavior.

 

[Muted]

And what she is doing is ILLEGAL and she physically threatens people and she's been still mad for months because I wouldn't have sex with her.

If she's physically threatening you and/or sexually harassing you then this needs to be reported to the school and possibly the law as well. You have every right to file a complaint and to be protected from threats and harassment, however, if your retaliating in any way through social media or in other ways you will be held responsible for your own behavior and it will only damage your own credibility and the credibility of your potential complaint.

 

[joeylittle]

she's been still mad for months because I wouldn't have sex with her.

Being mad at someone isn't against the law. Her being mad at you doesn't need to affect you at all. Why do you care, actually?

And then she had some dramatic "breakup" with me a few months ago cuz I still wouldn't have sex with her at school vacation (she had a private cabin and thought it was a good opportunity) but I never agreed to a relationship in the first place and said NO!!!

Why did she think that it was even a possibility? Were you friends? If she's asking for the password to your phone, and calling you emotionally unavailable, it sounds like there is some kind of surface-level friendship there. Was there?

If you haven't actually put down a boundary, and then abided by it, it's time to do so. The boundary isn't about what she can or cannot do; it's about what you will/won't tolerate, and how you will manage your own behavior in order to enforce the boundary.

Schools can be overly-intimate environments; it becomes a little glass bubble where everyone starts believing they are entangled with each other and cannot get away - when the fact is, you can always separate yourself from someone; it's a question of what you are willing to do in order to change your behavior, and then what you are willing to do in order to get appropriate support from the people in charge.

 

[Freedomfighter]

Ok this has been going on for quite a few months this girl two years older than me started talking to...

You are being victimized and it pains me if others don't want to validate your pain. You are being tortured by this person. Your best first tactic is to totally disregard her every attempt to get close to you.
I am so sorry for your pain, but she is methodically abusing you, I have had an individual like that who attempted to do the same thing. Personal or physical attributes aside this person was so crazy about me that after several attempts to get away from him,he decided to "punish" me, to damage me to the point of no return...... he managed to give me PTSD, out of pure rage and hate that he could not have me.

Be very very careful of this person, I have experience with desperate females of all kinds, married ones, single ones, engaged ones, they are trapped in horrible lives, but want to force others to run their lives and want to force their attention on to you.

Such people gross me out, and I am confronted by them daily, seems to be an epidemic out there. They are so repulsive, as you probably know.

You are the one being abused her, do not take BS from anyone that tries to tell you that it is up to you how you react to such abuse, because it is not. When they tell you that you are the one that has a problem then they are partaking in victim blaming.
You are the victim, she is the predator, you have to go into protection mode now, because you will find that other people will deny you the rights that you deserve, even after you tell your friends... That is what I did and they chose to protect the predator and hurt the victim.

She is a stalker.......

 

[PTSDfree]

If she's physically threatening you and/or sexually harassing you then this needs to be reported to the...

I reported her to the school and talked about it with the staff members

 

[Muted]

I reported her to the school and talked about it with the staff members

Good job!!! Keep us posted!!!

 

[PTSDfree]

Being mad at someone isn't against the law. Her being mad at you doesn't need to affect you at all....

We were off to a good start at school until she started talking about the sexual stuff. We have a couple shared interests that we talked about. Then she started bringing up the weird sex stuff that she did with her ex boyfriend cuz we were at friend level and she thought it would be ok to share private stuff like that. And I told her I'm not really into relationships or anything like that because boys weird me out and I prefer to live my own life. But then she took it even further and assumed that since we were friends and I didn't care for relationships then that must somehow make it ok to go around making sexual advances to me. It got REALLY awkward when I was at the school vacation place and she was reminding me 24/7 that she "had something special to show me" and that she had her own private cabin and was touching my butt without my permission.

Btw Just as a reminder we're both teenagers. I don't think it's normal for a kid to be going around and demanding their classmate's passcode and accusing them of being emotionally unavailable like an angry wife regardless of how close they might be. Or maybe I'm completely wrong and caught up in a different mindset. :D

 

[joeylittle]

Have you cut off communication with this person? It does sound like a friendship that turned into one person wanting a relationship, and those usually just need to end. I'm guessing your school is relatively small, so avoiding might be hard. You've clearly said no to their specific advances; you'll need to probably do the same in terms of all communication with them.

Is this school a supported one for individuals with psych issues?

I don't think saying you are emotionally unavailable is appropriate, because it indicates the person still thinks they have some place in your life. Ultimately you can't change what they do - but you do have control over the boundaries you set.

 

[PTSDfree]

Have you cut off communication with this person? It does sound like a friendship that turned into...

Yeah. She still pokes me at school when I ignore her and really wants to talk to me. She'll leave me alone for a bit but then she gets even more pissed the day later. My school has less than twenty students, so it is very small.

Like a special school for people with mental health issues and disabilities? Or one with counseling? Sorry but I dunno what exactly you mean.

Her anger issues are a very big concern of mine. As I mentioned, she has physically attacked her classmates in the past and the police were called. She yells at other people that she doesn't get along with or when she doesn't do her chore. She enjoys bragging about it too.

 

[Muted]

Her anger issues are a very big concern of mine. As I mentioned, she has physically attacked her classmates in the past and the police were called. She yells at other people that she doesn't get along with or when she doesn't do her chore. She enjoys bragging about it too.

It sounds like she may be using some intimidation tactics and this is impacting you. Do you feel safe at school?

Her poking you physically or verbally is not okay. The school authorities are responsible for your safety while your at school. If they are aware of what has been going on and you continue to report this and they still aren't listening or aren't protecting you, then they are in violation of the law. If you aren't contacting her and tell her to stop when she contacts you and she doesn't then this is harassment.

It is really important to write down every time she tries to interact with you and every time you report it.