Silent treatment is cruel and abusive.
My ex partner has no insight into what she has done. Unfortunately the couple of people in her life from whom she doesn’t isolate simply enable the same behaviour. Her friend said she had no idea what happened in our relationship. Well maybe she should. Maybe friends should not just accept that someone in trauma is acting rationally. Maybe they should read about the efforts the supporter went to to provide reassurance and understanding
She will continue the same behaviour into the future. Cut people off when she can’t deal with stresses in her life.
These were her words below. And with the first stupid disagreement in our relationship which was me wanting to spend some time with her daughter on her birthday, she just runs. She says I know the future will throw curve balls but we can work through it. No she can’t. She can’t work through anything. I’m just the latest of a long list of people she has shut out of her life. These were empty words
Her words:
...I have never been so sure about anyone....I love you now and I will love you till my last breath...
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I trusted her words. When she was upset I comforted her. When she had money problems I said we would sort them out. But when I expressed any needs it was just shit down and silence.
My counseller said her behaviour was bizarre. It is.
Thanks for the insight on this site. Time for me to move on and find someone who has some capacity to understand the impact of their behaviour on others and who doesn’t keep running away from the world.
All the best to the supporters here.
My ex partner has no insight into what she has done. Unfortunately the couple of people in her life from whom she doesn’t isolate simply enable the same behaviour. Her friend said she had no idea what happened in our relationship. Well maybe she should. Maybe friends should not just accept that someone in trauma is acting rationally. Maybe they should read about the efforts the supporter went to to provide reassurance and understanding
She will continue the same behaviour into the future. Cut people off when she can’t deal with stresses in her life.
These were her words below. And with the first stupid disagreement in our relationship which was me wanting to spend some time with her daughter on her birthday, she just runs. She says I know the future will throw curve balls but we can work through it. No she can’t. She can’t work through anything. I’m just the latest of a long list of people she has shut out of her life. These were empty words
Her words:
...I have never been so sure about anyone....I love you now and I will love you till my last breath...
<mod edit to remove bulk of direct quote>
I trusted her words. When she was upset I comforted her. When she had money problems I said we would sort them out. But when I expressed any needs it was just shit down and silence.
My counseller said her behaviour was bizarre. It is.
Thanks for the insight on this site. Time for me to move on and find someone who has some capacity to understand the impact of their behaviour on others and who doesn’t keep running away from the world.
All the best to the supporters here.
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